Ask Me Help Desk - Will he come back again?

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Originally Posted by hari_146

Thanks, but how can i remove this constant feeling that he will come back just because he has so many times before, i mean it, like a good 20 times, we were very young through most of those but he's always come back.

I can't help thinking it?

Honestly i really wish i didn't think it, in fact im not even sure anymore - i'd really like to forget everything.

Its just the most pathetic thing in the world, wishing, hoping and yes even chatting to strangers on the internet just because its that horrible to be alone and anyone that that can give me a false bit of hope is a legend in my eyes.

Plain wrong i know.

How do you allow your self to let go?

First, you let go of the denial.

Then you come to terms that what the two of you have is over and accept it over.

Once you accept things are over you let go.

After you let go you start your healing process and keep doing the things your doing now but you do them for yourself.

If your having a closure issue them maybe you should write a letter to him. Write all the things you want to say and after you read it burn it. It sort of like your releashing your feelings for him and at the same time it is going you closure.

After that take it day by day. If you have to cry then let the tears out. Each day your going grow stronger and stronger and with willpower and determination you can get through anything.

On a side note, you and your ex got together very young and it was unable to mature. That why the two of you had that on and off again relationships. Know these relationships are very unhealthy because they lack too much and who needs this emotional ride in their day? So all you can do is learn from it and hopefully the same mistakes won't be made in your future relationships.

Time to get on the path of healing.

Its OVER, just need to remember that small fact.

I'm going to try my best now - no doubt I'll proberly be back soon!

Thank you everyone for your advice.. big big help : )

Your situation king of sounds like I had a few years ago, My ex/fiance kept breaking up with me. And she was also my first love. Although, when she kept breaking up with me I wanted her back. But listing to the advise here and TIME to heal made me realize what a piece of crap she really was. I know you heard this before but time does heal and it took me over a year to somewhat totally heal. It's now a little over 2 years and although the pain is gone I still get mad for how I let her and how she treated me. But my advise to you would walk away, this will probably always be problem with him. And like me why would want to be in a relationship where your always going to be wondering when their going to break up again.

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Originally Posted by hari_146

Its OVER, just need to remember that small fact.

i'm going to try my best now - no doubt i'll proberly be back soon!

Thank you everyone for your advice.. big big help : )

I believe as time goes by it will get better when it comes to girlfriend and boyfriend breakups. Stay strong, you mentioned that you are joining the gym that is great way to start a new life.:)