Agree with KC, write a letter but don't send it. I think I wrote 15 letters to my ex, never sent any of them. The first few were nice and apologetic, and then they got turned to anger.

I wouldn't worry about the apology to her, until you have healed enough to forgive yourself, and see some reality. You may find that you don't owe her an apology at all, and just need to get your own emotions under better control.

Thats whats behind this, you learning how to deal with yourself, and your feelings, and not about her at all.

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I wouldn't worry about the apology to her, until you have healed enough to forgive yourself, and see some reality. You may find that you don't owe her an apology at all, and just need to get your own emotions under better control.

Thats whats behind this, you learning how to deal with yourself, and your feelings, and not about her at all.

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Well, I guess I'm not allowed to give you any rep, Talaniman; so I'll just say it, "Nestorian agrees: It seems that you are looking for any reason to talk to her again. Give it time and your mind will find other things to think about."

Thanks to all who pen down advices. I appreciate that a lot and it helps a lot. Got her email yesterday even before I send anything to her and it was a very harsh and full of unjust thought. God is my way and the only way for me during this one month period. I deleted that email because it hurt till the center of my most inner heart. I stay calm and peace because of His comfort and all your support.

You need to start doing NC, don't read any of her email, don't reply to them, get her off your face book.With time I am sure you will get over her

Is it after every break up, our life will be better than before? Happier than before? We will not be the same person after all this trial right?

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Is it after every break up, our life will be better than before? Happier than before? We will not be the same person after all this trial right?

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Every experience, period, should teach us something. More than a breakup, the first time you have your heart broken really teaches you something. It truly shapes you and kind of shows you how real and how fast things are and things change. Your life is better if you are determined to make it so, regardless of circumstances. The only thing that makes something better is your mentality and your intentions.

It's already 3 months I broke up with my ex. Sometime I still think of her and miss her but the feeling is not that hurt anymore. Is this a healing process? I am moving on with my work well. Almost everyday tight with work.

Yes, you are moving in the right direction. It has been 9 months for me, and there are still sometimes where I have fond memories of my ex, and even miss her a tad bit. Just keep moving forward. It takes time, and with work and determination, you will keep getting better.

To this day, I am grateful to all the exes that dumped me, so I could learn to be a better man, to the female who finally stayed. Its been more than 3 decades now, and counting.

You'll get there, just keep living, learning, and growing.

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It's been terribly hurt and pain when my girlfriend broke up with me. It was full of confusing and I wasn't given a chance to get back to the relationship. It hurt deep inside my heart and soul. I cried for the past few weeks. We been taking time off for 2 weeks and after that we broke up. Broke up for a week. I still miss her alot and can't keep her away from my mind even at work. My heart is in deep pain when I think of her. I keep wonder if she still miss me as she is very firm with her decision. We were in great romance and do our things together, share the same passion and interest. Somehow she perceived my love wrongly and turned out to be a stressful n burden to her. I honestly and sincerely love her and not afraid to love her despite her complexity of mind. Come to a point when I hate myself so much for not able to live up the love for her...

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Go back to her and tell her how you feel. If the answer is still NO, then move on! Good luck.

Hi to all my friends here...

Thanks for being with me to go through painful life together. Nothing beats a good listener and companionship which you guys gave. I am walking closely with God now. Knowing that every single day and second in my life is in His control. I just let it go and let God handle it. All the solutions to heartbroken and painful experiences can be found in the Bible. It's the most comforting way. Nothing beats that!

"This mean tremendous joy to you, I know, even though you are temporarily harassed by all kinds of trials and temptations. This is no accident-it happens to prove your Faith which is definitely more valuable than gold." - 1 Peter 1:6-7

God has glorious purpose in permitting heartbreak.

"God heals the brokenhearted, binding up their wounds" - Psalm147:3

Christ was broken for us to comfort the broken among us.

Love you guys,
Clewis