Ask Me Help Desk - Short time relationship

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Originally Posted by none12345

oh nvm than yah since he's your first boyfriend. but to be honest, hes had closure when he decided to not stay together or when he decided to get together with you. When he decided to get together with you, he should be committed to you regardless if they come back or not to meet up with him because he's already with you and it shouldnt matter if they come back or not. Than he hasnt gotten over the girls he left yet. how i see things is that he doesnt love you, he just needs someone to be there for him. im not saying he wont fall in love with you but at this point from everything you've told me i dont think what he has for you is love. Im not saying this is how things really are im just saying this is how i see it from an outside perspective.

I have always doubted him.. because of his past.. he proved it that he does love me and he said that I worry too much.. It's been like 3 yrs since those girls left.. I don't know what with it that just bugs me when it pops in my head.. sometimes I think maybe I am insecure of them.. I know that he loves me, that doesn't worry me. I just need to know why would someone do what he has done.. and you have answered that already. He said that he doesn't want to talk about it.. I don't know I think I am just a little confused about things right now.. And I always also think that I love him more.. like there are things that he won't do for me and he would for them, kind of thing.. I am paranoid. ANd thank you for still talking to me :)

No problem lol ima crash now. But he is your first boyfriend. You have so much to learn. Do you really know what love is yet? How do you know what you guys have is love? Sometimes even I don't know what love is yet. I just broke up with my ex. She was my first love. I'm slightly younger than you though. But yah love is complicated.

I just thought I had love with her but it turns out it might not be love. I was willing to go to the end of the earth for her but I realized I was treated like crap. Basically what I'm saying is that you have lots of time to figure out what love is and I don't think anyone can fully grasp the true meaning of love. Sometimes what you may think you have is love but it turns out not to be in the end. Trust me I've learned it the hard way. Im not trying to say that you guys don't have that I'm just saying be prepared if that isn't the case. - none

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Originally Posted by none12345

No problem lol ima crash now. But he is your first boyfriend. You have so much to learn. Do you really know what love is yet? How do you know what you guys have is love? Sometimes even i dont know what love is yet. I just broke up with my ex. she was my first love. im slightly younger than you though. But yah love is complicated.

I just thought i had love with her but it turns out it might not be love. i was willing to go to the end of the earth for her but i realized i was treated like crap. Basically what im saying is that you have lots of time to figure out what love is and i dont think anyone can fully grasp the true meaning of love. Sometimes what you may think you have is love but it turns out not to be in the end. Trust me i've learned it the hard way. Im not trying to say that you guys dont have that im just saying be prepared if that isnt the case. - none

Ah All right.. sorry to hear that..

AND yea you can never really define love I guess.. I'll just go with the flow and see where it brings me and learn from there! Thank you so much!

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Originally Posted by panget234

I know..but if both of them were not planning on having that long distance relationship. Then I dont see the point of it. Kinda waste of time.....coz I personally wouldn't do it, you know...He is my first boyfriend, I know I still have a lot to learn about a relationship. I just have never had guts to ask him "why did you do that?" .....Most people that know about it sais it was because of the sex!

This sounds like what some guys do anyway, get into a quick relationship for sex and newnew with no intention of ever making it more than an option, I'd say he has what he wants no strings attached type of thing, if both people agree enjoy but if one lies and makes it look like they want it to become more , then we r talking selfish, self centered a holes

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Puh-lease watch the date on these threads. While this one isn't that old the poster hasn't been back, and likely will not comeback. You have had several that were closed and your post deleted.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

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Puh-lease watch the date on these threads. While this one isn't that old the poster hasn't been back, and likely will not comeback. You have had several that were closed and your post deleted.

Well excuse me seems odd to keep up these old posts for what? U were rude!!

Besides why do you care what I read and who I respond to.. messages are sent to peoples mailbox.. if they answer they do , if they don't they don't, so just start a new post, why you feel the need to correct people you don't know.

If you could read your profile page and get your messages we could talk about how the site works.