Don't beat yourself up, just pick yourself up, put your sneakers on (running shoes) and run like hell away from this guy, and into a new and better, happier life for yourself.

By the way? What is Oz?

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It will take time and hard work on your part Rooster, but you know, and we know you can do this and let him go. No contact!!! :-)

We are all on your side here.

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starlite1, thanks again for your kind words, I'm hurting so much now. Im not coping well at the mo, hence writing on here. Ive lost a lot of weight, I'm 5"10 and weigh just 8 stone at the mo, my ex knows how ill I am and he hasn't got the decency to text me to see if I'm OK and that hurts me so much. But to be honest, from what I'm learning about him I don't know why I expected a text to make sure I was OK

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Don't beat yourself up, just pick yourself up, put your sneakers on (running shoes) and run like hell away from this guy, and into a new and better, happier life for yourself.

By the way? What is Oz?

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Sorry Oz as in Australia, I may go there as its something I've always wanted to do but always put it off xxx

Sweetie, don't let this guy or anyone make you ill. Believe me, I know what you are going through, we have all been there, but you will get through this, and you will meet a great man who will treat you great, and this creep will be a thing of the past. He is a selfish, insensitive, self-centered jerk who doesn't deserve to even be in the same country as you.

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Sweetie, don't let this guy or anyone make you ill. Believe me, I know what you are going through, we have all been there, but you will get through this, and you will meet a great man who will treat you great, and this creep will be a thing of the past. He is a selfish, insensitive, self-centered jerk who doesn't deserve to even be in the same country as you.

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starlite1 you are very kind, I'm trying to eat I really am. I thought that if this guy knew how ill I was that he would coming running back into my arms!! How wrong was I eh?? He hasn't even bothered to get in touch to see if I'm OK. Ive recently had a cancer scare and my ex knew about that too and again he hasn't even text to see if I'm OK and whether the scare was just a scare or the real deal. How nasty can one person be??

Like I said, Rooster, he is heartless, and doesn't give a damn about anyone else but himself. He is a cheat, and a lyer and he has no idea what love is or how to love. You on the other hand know how to love, and there is a man out there who will be deserving of your love.

I'm glad all is well, and that you don't have cancer. Thank God.

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Like I said, Rooster, he is heartless, and doesn't give a damn about anyone else but himself. He is a cheat, and a lyer and he has no idea what love is or how to love. You on the other hand know how to love, and there is a man out there who will be deserving of your love.

I'm glad all is well, and that you don't have cancer. Thank God.

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Thanks starlite1, I just don't understand how a person wouldn't get in touch when I had the scare, even just to see I'm OK? That really has woke me up to the type of person he is. He is not a person I can rely on at all. I just don't understand why I fall for these lines at the time, I'm a highly educated lady with a masters degree, my own house, lots of friends and family etc. Its not like I need him but I love him so so much. I wish I could turn my feelings off. At times I just want to die so the pain will go away

Right at this minute I just want to curl up and die, I'm sure most of you have been in this position and know how I feel. How do you stop the hurting? When will the pain go away? When will I stop thinking of him? And then him and this other woman together ? I just hope I'm strong enough to get through this horrible time

I know, it is the worst feeling in the world. But, you will get through this, it will take time. You just have to remember how he treated you, the cheating and not being there for you. Stay strong and know you will find someone better soon.

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I know, it is the worst feeling in the world. But, you will get through this, it will take time. You just have to remember how he treated you, the cheating and not being there for you. Stay strong and know you will find someone better soon.

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Thanks starlite1, he is blaming my friends saying that they interfered and that's why he don't want to get back with me?? When I found out he was back friends with his ex who lived away I text him and asked him about it, he never replied to my texts!!

He has to lay blame on someone or something because he obviously isn't man enough to take responsibility for his own actions and horrible behavior towards you. Do not sit around and wait for this guy to contact you. And if by chance he does, ignore him. Show him that you are strong, and that you don't need him in your life, because you really don't.

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He has to lay blame on someone or something because he obviously isn't man enough to take responsibilty for his own actions and horrible behavior towards you. Do not sit around and wait for this guy to contact you. And if by chance he does, ignore him. Show him that you are strong, and that you don't need him in your life, because you really don't.

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Thanks starlite1, what gets me is the fact that he has been caught out and just won't put his hands up and admit it!! If he had said yes I was wrong and I want to change then maybe it would make this feel a bit better for me. Instead he said he didn't cheat and when he was found out he ignored my texts and ran off.. gggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrr

Yes, he is a heartless coward! GRRRR is right. I'd like to tell this son of a B*&^% a thing or two LOL!

What hurts is that he had the cheek to put it all back on me, that it was my friends that had caused him to walk away!! All they did was question him to why he treated me like s%$t all the time. He just couldn't handle it and told them too tell me tha he didn't want to get back together, the day before he was asking me to give him another go and that he loved and missed me!?

That is such crap on his part. He is a loser, he doesn't have a clue to what love is and he doesn't know the meaning of respect. You will see the light soon, and you will sooo glad that you are rid of him, believe me. You may not see it right now, but you will. He is no man, that is for sure.

I thought it sounded like crap and was starting to blame myself and my friends, then realised that he is just trying too turn the tables round on me I think.

It just hurts like mad when I think of him with someone else, but I'm finally coming to the point to realise that they are welcome to him and his lying ways, he was really bringing me down and making me think it was all my fault

Ah yes, because he is the manipulative type. And just know that none of this is your fault.

I feel an idiot, he is probably laughing at me behind my back with this other woman and that hurts so much. The thing that hurts as well, is that I bet my bottom dollar that he gets back in touch in the next few months, when the dust has settled and he think he can give me the smooth lines.

I asked him why we keep coming back together and he said that it was because we love each other??

Do not let somebody use you.

"If this one goes, I have somebody else in waiting"

Guilty I am.

Be wise, stay away !

I just wanted to say thanks for all the comments and advice. Im just hurting so much right now, all I want to do is go to bed and not wake up and that scares me. I don't want to feel like this over a loser guy but can't seem to help it