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Ignore and delete. I don't care what stupid saying my ex emails me, it would be deleted, especially if it was as ambiguous as this is...
No need to open a can of old worms. Of course, you could email her back with another witty saying... "What goes up, must come down." Just sayin'... :cool:
I have no clue, and maybe this is something you should leave alone. No point worrying over it.
If this is what it means then I guess I am happy on the situation. I didn't want to prove a point to her but I just knew that I wasn't the wrong one in our relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by BlackVY
Well there you go. I guess she expected you to know what she meant by this short e-mail. It may been ambiguous an strange, but maybe she guessed you'd understand it... and seems like you do, so all good... no need to respond to her.
Her cryptic message is a way for her to get back to you and open up a line of communication.
Delete it, and add her address to the SPAM filter. Therefore this messages will no longer be allowed to plague your mind
She wants to be in contact with you. She's sending you a confusing email because you most likely will respond, asking for clarification OR you don't respond but she doesn't feel like an idiot because she didn't send you an email that absolutely requires a response such as "hey, how have you been?", if you ignored an email like that, she would've felt completely rejected. With the email she has sent you, she's not putting herself completely out there or admitting to missing you, she is trying to seem like she is simply stating a small fact for your information, nothing too heavy... the irony is that she wants to open the lines of communication to a subject that is quite heavy.
Or perhaps email her back and say, "The ducks have conquered the turtles.
My interpretation of the email is. Maybe the reason you guys broke up in the first place, she probably gave you some reason, like your not affectionate, or you don't try hard enough or something along that lines and since you stopped contacting her, I think she is trying to tell you that she was right the whole time because you didn't prove her wrong.
I think its something along those lines and just like isneeze said, she wants to reopen communication which means she still cares. To what degree? I don't know maybe friendship? Or wants to get back together? Regardless, going back is just going to bring more hurt I think.
Its funny cause when I did try contacting her in the month of March she blew up on me. So I decided to stick with NC. It's been close to a month since we last talked. Though in the last month I have improved my life (New Job making 15 grand more a year, buying a condo in a couple weeks, went back to training in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu again (doing it for 2 years, when I met her I stopped to focus on her.) I just feel really good.
Though I feel good, I do miss her, and still love her but I don't have that anxiety every morning when I wake up now. I'm content on being alone and just doing what I am doing. It's a shame though, I have to figure out what to do with this engagement ring I bought for her before we broke up...
I hope everyone is doing OK on these boards.
Everyone that I have asked this question too has said the following "she knows she messed up, she wants to get back together." Now I just have to decide if I want to try again.
Yah ever since I broke up I have so much time to pick up stuff I left like the piano and guitar for my ex because she wants all my time but now I have so much time to do what I like even though I still miss her too. But I feel betrayed and I can't get back with her even though I want to. Anyway its awesome to hear you're doing better. But yah it takes a while to get over a break up so there will be always ups and down and we just got to keep living our life.
As for the engagement ring. If it hurts you to see it and it brings back memories of when you guys were together, I saw get rid of it and sell it. If you find a new girl, I'm sure you wouldn't want to give her that ring because it wasn't meant for her.
As for her, its really up to you if you want to take her back just know that if you do be very cautious. If she left you once before, she wouldn't have any problems leaving again and after all the hurt it caused you I'm not sure if you think its worth it anymore. Good Luck =P - none12345
Yeah I mean I couldn't get out of bed for 3 weeks almost after we first broke up. I cried like a baby, it was awesome. I lost close to 30 pounds all together (which I didn't need to lose, I was 5'10 139 when I started gaining my weight back.)
Though Just having fun is what I tried and did do. I went out with my guy friends and made a whole new network of friends in a weekend. I started dating again, but just to get out of the house and meet new people. Which I tell you works wonders for yourself esteem.
The engagement ring... yeah, I think I'm just going to sell it. I haven't looked at it because I locked it away. I'm better off not looking at it because I was going to propose in less than a month if we were still together.
I know if I take her back it could either be great or it could be a disaster. She did have a lot of growing up to do. It could go either way. I just don't want to get hurt again, and by saying that I think it would be the wrong move to go back to her.
LOL dude its all the same man. I'm 5"9 I was 160 and now m 140 I feel so skinny. But yah basically I have been in no contact for 4 weeks now and the first few weeks I literally ate nothing. But anyway my friend girls are pushing girls my way and I realized I'm not ready to date yet but ready to go out and meet new people and it does work wonders.
Maybe wait till you're better before looking at the ring dude. And its up to you what to do about taking her back or not. Its hard to take them back after trust is broken. For me my ex will have to beg me like crazy for me to take her back. But yah do what is best for you and to prevent most hurt.
Yeah so I assume we were / are in the same boat. I look horrible still (I'm about 150 now) but I'm glad that I can wake up in the morning and not feel like a pile of crap.
Ya know, trust has been broken big time here. For me being there for her through everything (her depression, her car getting repoed, from turning off her gas and electric, from even finding the root of all her problems... she was a shopaholic and spent over 3000 on clothes a month) I never once left her side, because I loved her. I then get a small imbalance and the medicine I was on made me a little depressed and she leaves me. F'n awesome I tell you.
Oh by the way I think maybe going out on a date with a new woman will help you heal a little bit quicker. Cause maybe part of your mind is saying "no one will ever like / love me again, or they won't think I am attractive." I've been on a couple dates with all different girls (actually have my 3rd date with one girl tomorrow night) and honestly you might miss out on something great. Try it out, and if they are cute, it's even better. You can at least replace her ex's face with these girls. Just don't over do it. If you and your ex don't get back together you are going to have to start somewhere. I say start now.
Yah trust has been broken here big time too. After 3 years of friendship and 2 years of lovers, she left me for some guy that confessed to her because we were doing long distance relationship and I did so much for her she threw me aside like garbage. But yah I've been on one date only to find out how much better my ex was... lol still miss her and been having crazy ideas on how to win her back... sigh... anyway I can't have her back now no more trust but yah...
I'd be careful if I was you. If it was as simple as "she knows she messed, she wants to get back together" she would have sent you an email saying just that. But she didn't, she sent you an email just to get your focus back on her because she senses you're moving on. It doesn't mean she wants you back, it means she doesn't want you to move on.
Yeah I thought that but she has way too much pride when it comes to relationships. Even though she can't be alone and needs the love of someone @ all times, if she knows she screwed up, she won't come out and say it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dragonfly1234
Females are confusing.
BTW your situation was just like mine a couple years back. I was 25 when it happened, a girl that I knew since college and had a 4 year relationship with her (2 years Long Distance) one day just broke up with me. Why... at first she couldn't give a reason but then I found out that this guy she worked with confessed his love to her. We were long Distance (3 hours apart) she made the most "logical" decision she could think of. So she went to him and I was heartbroken. Next thing you know he only wanted sex and broke up with her 4 months in, she came begging, crawling, crying, and stating that she loved me and didn't want to live without me. I didn't take her back, though I thought of everyway to get her back when she didn't want me. It's not worth it.Quote:
Originally Posted by none12345
Also if you have had 1 date and your ex was better, then go on another date with another girl. Trust me, your ex will look better a majority of the time, but once time has gone by, other ladies tend to look way better.
Yah... they always come back neh? But by that time we have completely healed and won't take them back anymore and probably have found something better already. Anyway how's it going with your situation now?
Don't know, I haven't responded to her, I might give her another week or two. Part of me really wants to call her and just say "Let's have a cup of coffee." The other part of me is saying "Whatever." Though there is a huge part of me that wants to take her back. 1 week from now will be a month since we last talked, and it will be a total of 2 months since we've last seen each other. I think maybe cause she broke the NC maybe I should respond on Sunday (a day she doesn't work.) Who knows. What do you think I should do?
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