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  • Mar 19, 2009, 04:49 PM
    Alty
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    Originally Posted by Flashpitstop View Post
    wow, thats the best response i ever had!
    Thanks so much for that.

    I'm glad it helped. You're welcome. :)
  • Mar 19, 2009, 04:49 PM
    Flashpitstop
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    Originally Posted by asking View Post
    I'd have to look this up, but I'm pretty sure that men still cheat more often than women.

    Biologically, women cheat to "hedge their bets." Same idea as in a hedge fund--you diversify your risk. If you have children by several different males, you increase the likelihood of having successful offspring. Women with high-quality mates have less reason to do this, but for some people the grass is always greener...

    For men, the reasons are similar...PLUS men have the opportunity to reproduce without investing any time and energy into child rearing. Because so many men reproduce and run, we have deadbeat dad laws that force biological fathers to invest in their children. But these laws are very recent and the tendency to duck out, left over from the last half million years of evolution, is still there.

    Now I'm going to duck! I know this isn't the answer you wanted. But you asked...

    I'm not advocating any of this and I think people can resist these tendencies, especially if they are with someone whom they love and respect and who makes them feel loved.

    Makes sense too, nice responses from different types of people, it opened my mind a lot.
    Thanks for that, and why I didn't have to sign into here before broke up with my girl, I'm so sad for that...
  • Mar 19, 2009, 04:50 PM
    liz28

    Is the reasons behind this question is only because you suspect someone you was messing with of cheating?
  • Mar 19, 2009, 04:55 PM
    Flashpitstop
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    Originally Posted by liz28 View Post
    Is the reasons behind this question is only because you suspect someone you was messing with of cheating?

    Yes, I suspected about my girl cheating on me, a lots of things too, no respect, fail communication... and sort of of things... She wasn't that into like me. I was more into, than her.
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:05 PM
    Alty
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    Originally Posted by Flashpitstop View Post
    Yes, i suspected about my girl cheating on me, a lots of things too, no respect, fail communication... and sorta of things... She wasnt that into like me. I was more into, than her.

    Well then it's time to move on. Like I said, love isn't the only thing that makes a relationship work. Also, you both have to love each other, it's not a one way street.

    If she doesn't respect you, you don't communicate well with each other, then this is a dead end. Time to cut your losses and move on to greener pastures.

    Not all girls cheat, you just have to find the right one, and you will, just give it time.
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:12 PM
    Flashpitstop
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    Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    Well then it's time to move on. Like I said, love isn't the only thing that makes a relationship work. Also, you both have to love eachother, it's not a one way street.

    If she doesn't respect you, you don't communicate well with eachother, then this is a dead end. Time to cut your losses and move on to greener pastures.

    Not all girls cheat, you just have to find the right one, and you will, just give it time.

    Yes, you are right, but she was the perfect girl to me, and she always said that too, but of course we had a lots of fights to be better and understand each other...
    She has many personality problems I think, about lose her mom early for drugs, and I don't know witch more... but, that's time to move on.

    Ty
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:15 PM
    artlady

    I see a different generation of young women.My sons,22 and 28 have many female friends.Educated ,well bred women who are successful etc, They just play around like it is nothing!

    It blows my mind to see this as I have always known men to do this sort of fast dance but now I see women doing it more and more.That friends with benefits thing is really crazy.

    I do not think women see playing around as promiscuous,the way we did back in the day.Now it is just a natural thing.

    There is a trend toward women just getting their groove on.
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:18 PM
    Flashpitstop
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    Originally Posted by artlady View Post
    I see a different generation of young women.My sons,22 and 28 have many female friends.Educated ,well bred women who are successful etc,.They just play around like it is nothing!

    It blows my mind to see this as I have always known men to do this sort of fast dance but now I see women doing it more and more.That friends with benefits thing is really crazy.

    I do not think women see playing around as promiscuous,the way we did back in the day.Now it is just a natural thing.

    There is a trend toward women just getting their groove on.

    I know, but when she asked me to have a serious relationship? Doesn't make sense to me...
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:32 PM
    Ren6
    SURVEY STATS
    — Total participants: 70,288
    — Average age:
    Men, 43; Women, 38
    — Gender: Men, 54%; Women, 46%
    — Age range: 18-76+
    — Married or remarried: 60%
    — Length of relationship: 1 year, 5%; 3-5 years, 15%; 11-20 years, 25%
    — Living with partner: 11%
    — Dating one person: 13%
    — Heterosexual: 94%
    — Average number of lifetime sexual partners:
    Men, 17; Women, 11

    Here are some stats from MSNBC...
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:37 PM
    Flashpitstop
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    Originally Posted by Ren6 View Post
    SURVEY STATS
    — Total participants: 70,288
    — Average age:
    Men, 43; Women, 38
    — Gender: Men, 54%; Women, 46%
    — Age range: 18-76+
    — Married or remarried: 60%
    — Length of relationship: 1 year, 5%; 3-5 years, 15%; 11-20 years, 25%
    — Living with partner: 11%
    — Dating one person: 13%
    — Heterosexual: 94%
    — Average number of lifetime sexual partners:
    Men, 17; Women, 11

    Here are some stats from MSNBC...

    Great add, thanks
  • Mar 19, 2009, 07:08 PM
    Bonita--
    From my own personal experience, I cheated because my ex-boyfriend was mistreating me. He didn't spend enough time with me, he didn't talk to me as often as I would like, he was never there when I needed him, he didn't put enough effort into our relationship period and he also didn't give me sex. I would ask for it but he always said he was tired or he didn't feel good. He would go out with his friends every weekend and go to clubs and ignore my phone calls all night. He rarely did anything nice for me either such as take me out to dinner or buy me flowers. I put up with this for about seven months, until I just had enough. I ended up cheating on him, physically and emotionally, and I cheated throughout the rest of our relationship. If he treated me right from the beginning, then I would never have cheated in the first place. Now I'm in a relationship where my boyfriend treats me good, and I would never cheat. I don't know what goes on inside other girl's heads, but I know why I cheated, so maybe that will give you some insight as to why some girls cheat.
  • Mar 19, 2009, 07:15 PM
    Flashpitstop
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    Bonita--;1615194 He rarely did anything nice for me either such as take me out to dinner or buy me flowers.
    Good point...
    What's exactly nice to you?
  • Mar 19, 2009, 07:19 PM
    Flashpitstop
    And what makes you cheat before break up? Is that some revenge?
    What did you make to try to fix that issues?
  • Mar 20, 2009, 12:33 PM
    Bonita--
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    Originally Posted by Bonita-- View Post
    He rarely did anything nice for me either such as take me out to dinner or buy me flowers.

    good point...
    whats exactly nice to you?

    Nice is taking me out to dinner once in awhile, buying me flowers or something just to show that he cares, talking to me more often, holding me more, spending more time with me, putting me in front of his friends sometimes instead of always putting them in front of me etc. He never took me out anywhere and if he did it was the movies and I had to pay for myself half of the time. He only bought me gifts on my birthday and valentines day, and I would have loved if he bought me flowers once in awhile just to show that he cared about me. He was always with his friends and he had no time to talk to me, for example I would call him and I would want to talk to him but he would say he's at the mall with his friends and he can't talk. He should have made more time for me instead of always putting his friends first.

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    Originally Posted by Flashpitstop View Post
    and what makes you cheat before break up? Is that some revenge?
    What did you make to try to fix that issues?

    I cheated before we broke up because I wanted things to work with him, so I stayed hoping that he would eventually change but he didn't. I didn't want to cheat on him and the first couple of times I did it I felt bad but he continued to mistreat me so I did it more and more and began to not care. I asked him to stop mistreating me and I even told him if he didn't stop that I was going to leave him and he promised to change but he never did. Every time I said I was going to leave he would come back to me crying and begging for me to stay and promise that he would change, so I stayed but of course he never changed. I wanted things to work out between us but he wasn't willing to change, and by then I had already cheated an uncountable amount of times and I felt like there was no point in staying in the relationship.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 01:03 PM
    Flashpitstop
    Girls always want to change men! There is the point... If they cant, that's some reason, about age, personality or goals... well... that's the live...
  • Mar 20, 2009, 01:15 PM
    Flashpitstop
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    Originally Posted by starlite1 View Post
    No, not necessarily. She may be trying to get close to you. Just because she is asking if you have secrets does not mean that she has secrets.

    So I haven't big secrets, and she never believed me... was a boring questions every night before sleep...

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