Max,

Stop being a child, your about to have one! Stop looking to the past for reasons to bail.

Be a man, strap on a pair and deal with the situation you've created.

You say that you'll let down everyone if you walk away from this lady and pay no child support? Well, you'll be a f-in ******* so yeah, I'd say you'd be letting them down? But you'll be letting yourself down more.

Raising a child is not easy and not cheap! If this lady has the strength of character to take this all on, well I have immense respect for her. But you made half of this baby and you need to take responsibility for your actions.

Welcome to the real world.

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Originally Posted by High Max

No, what happened was I neglected her and got too comfortable and used to her being around, and then she left, and I realized the mistake too late.

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Okay you recognize your mistakes good but do you think it's fair to screw someone else over because of it? You have to learn that once you made your bed you've to lay in it and what is done and the past is the past.

Focusing on the things that are present in your life insead of your past. And even though you have these feelings for your ex who is to say that she feels the same and is just going drop everything for you because I really don't see that happening.

I don't understand why this is happening, I feel like a new comer here posting about how he misses his ex. Everyone else here got over it and moved on, but its been almost eight months and I still have not stopped thinking about her since the day she walked out.

I think it has something to do with you still blaming yourself for this whole thing. As long as that cloud still hangs above your head, you can't expect to truly move on.

Use condoms, as you don't use your brain

The weirdest part about it, is that the images and memories become more appealing and beautiful by the day, even before I met this current girl that I am with. I guess I haven't forgiven myself for making the biggest mistake of my life, because she was it. The cutest, nicest, most sexy girl to ever give me a chance gone, and it was because I became too cocky. I screwed it up big time and she's gone.

The funniest thing is, is that I haven't even talked to her since last September, so its not like I have been keeping in contact with her to fuel the fire so to speak, we have had NO CONTACT at all for almost a year now. Isn't this supposed to get better in time, not worse?

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Originally Posted by inloveafrostyle

use condoms, as you dont use your brain

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Wow... the world must look pretty small from your high perch huh? Wish I could be as decent and perfect as you are.

As for Max, nothing gets better until you learn to forgive yourself. When you do that, you progress... when you constantly hold yourself in contempt, it doesn't matter what you do, you still won't get over her. You are human, and that is no way to live life. Not only can you learn to accept responsibility and own up for your mistakes, but you must learn to accept there is nothing you can do to change them. Focus on the future, not the past.

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Originally Posted by inloveafrostyle

use condoms, as you dont use your brain

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For your information, she was on a very effective birth control with almost a 100% success rate, but an antibiotic messed with the medication and did not allow it to work.

You have to let go, I mean really let go and accept that it is over. When thoughts of her enter your mind try to think of something else because as long as you hold on to those thoughts it will continue to mess with your head and bring back all those old feelings.

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Originally Posted by High Max

The funniest thing is, is that I havent even talked to her since last September, so its not like I have been keeping in contact with her to fuel the fire so to speak, we have had NO CONTACT at all for almost a year now. Isn't this supposed to get better in time, not worse?

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What I don't understand is.. If you were still in love with her why would you go after someone else? [I am confused or am I in the right?].

Well I guess now all you can do, as suggestedd various times, is to delete her off Facebook so you don't scroll to her page and mesmerize. Either that or like I told you before, take care of your responsibilities as a man [tell the current girlfriend what is going on,pay child support, get custody, etc].

So make up your mind: go back to your ex, or stay with your current girlfriend, either way take responsibilites for your actions.

MRS.S

There is no going back to her, the girl hates me, its been pretty well established months ago.

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There is no going back to her, the girl hates me, its been pretty well established months ago.

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Ah, well then. You just need to accept what you did wrong, move on with your life. With feelings like these I think it's best not to be in a relationship.

MRS.S

Hi Max,

Whether she hates you or not, you should be concentrating on your current girlfriend and the baby. If in fact you don't love your current girlfriend, you may want to let her go, but you will be responsible for child support and you are going to be a parent whether you are in the relationship or not. But, as far as your ex, you need to let her go, and get on with your life.