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Originally Posted by jman123h

I have cheated on my girlfriend and have been without her for two months. It doesn't seem like she is coming back. I tried and I tried to tell her how sorry I was, and still am. I will never cheat again on anyone, ever. I am so hurt and so lost in my life without her. She knows how terribly sorry I am but she says she just can't trust me anymore. I know I'd never do it again, but do you know he'd never do it again? Make sure of that before you take him back or make sure you think he would do it again before you let him go forever, because if he's that special it's worth the struggle.

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I have a question, don't mean to highjack the thread.

Why did you cheat if you love(d) her so much, if you are now hurt, lost, sorry.

Why?

It takes a very strong commitment and a healthy relationship to withstand cheating.

You have to really let it go and not just let your anger and mistrust smolder inside of you.

Years down the road when he is late coming home from work,will you truly be able to believe it was a traffic jam?

I hope because the wedding is all paid for does not have a bearing on your decision.It would be a poor reason to go forward.

You need to ask yourself how capable of absolute forgiveness you truly are.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I have a question, don't mean to highjack the thread.

Why did you cheat if you love(d) her so much, if you are now hurt, lost, sorry.

Why?

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I believe it was because he was drunk, said he didn't know what he was doing. Girlfriend heard about it, asked him about it, he denied it and then she found out again and then he admitted to it.

Just thought I'd give you the cliff notes version:-)

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Originally Posted by jman123h

I have cheated on my girlfriend and have been without her for two months. It doesn't seem like she is coming back. I tried and I tried to tell her how sorry I was, and still am. I will never cheat again on anyone, ever. I am so hurt and so lost in my life without her. She knows how terribly sorry I am but she says she just can't trust me anymore. I know I'd never do it again, but do you know he'd never do it again? Make sure of that before you take him back or make sure you think he would do it again before you let him go forever, because if he's that special it's worth the struggle.

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Hi I'm not judging you in anyway an your comment was very useful to me, but do u no why you cheated on your girlfriend.its good to know that you can be truly remorseful and sorry. Thanks x

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

I believe it was because he was drunk, said he didn't know what he was doing. Girlfriend heard about it, asked him about it, he denied it and then she found out again and then he admitted to it.

Just thought I'd give you the cliff notes version:-)

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The one time I don't look up the other threads -

Thanks.

I always wonder about the why/what background.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

The one time I don't look up the other threads -

Thanks.

I always wonder about the why/what background.

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She doesn't have another thread all the information is in her oringal post and in some of her responses starting from the 1st page.

Sorry Judy for the misunderstanding I thought you was referring to the OP.

Cheating is a huge deal for some people, but...

Talaniman made a good point. Your fiancé could have kept it a secret. However, it seems like he is taking your relationship seriously. His intentions seem pretty clear. He wants to make up for his mistake.

Some people may feel: "Once a cheater always a cheater," no chance, no how. But it's up to you to decide if you feel that you can trust him again.

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Originally Posted by liz28

Sorry Judy for the misunderstanding I thought you was referring to the OP.

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Liz, I jumped on you without cause - and I'm sorry.

I am asking that the "reddie" be removed. If that is not possible, perhaps you could delete your post which will take the reddie away with it.

And I'm honestly sorry.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Liz, I jumped on you without cause - and I'm sorry.

I am asking that the "reddie" be removed. If that is not possible, perhaps you could delete your post which will take the reddie away with it.

And I'm honestly sorry.

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I balanced with a greenie,not to be a budinski but that just seemed easiest.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

I have a question, don't mean to highjack the thread.

Why did you cheat if you love(d) her so much, if you are now hurt, lost, sorry.

Why?

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We were in a terrible time, I was full of myself and felt I could do whatever I wanted. I didn't have sex, but making out is still cheating. I would never look at another woman like that again while in a relationship.

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Originally Posted by jman123h

We were in a terrible time, I was full of myself and felt I could do whatever I wanted. I didn't have sex, but making out is still cheating. I would never look at another woman like that again while in a relationship.

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Thanks for the clear, brutally honest answer. And I believe you.

Again - thanks.