You need something else in your life to do besides her. That's what she is saying because seeing each other everyday gets old really fast. Get a life without her, and call her later.

Maybe she isn't breaking up with you but honestly feels that after 16 months of day in and day out togetherness, she just needs some space each week to herself.

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You need something else in your life to do besides her. Thats what she is saying because seeing each other everyday gets old really fast. Get a life without her, and call her later.

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She has said that many times too me that we both need too something else in our lives.Do you think that could also be the case is that she is using me when she is lonely?

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maybe she isn't breaking up with you but honestly feels that after 16 months of day in and day out togetherness, she just needs some space each week to herself.

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Hope so and I think that probably is the case because she has told me that.After I lost my job we have been togeher 24 hours a day I know that hasn't helped.But I have this feeling in the back of my mind she wants too have her cake and eat it if you know what I mean.

Also since I have not been working I don't have hardly any money.but I still eat her food and drink beer out of her fridge.Think that is another reason she is getting fed up of me being there everyday.

Seems you could stand to take some time to get your act together. Who likes a mooch anyway?

Instead of being around her 24hrs a day, you should be out looking for a job because everyone likes someone that can stand on their own 2 feet. Then instead of being consider a mooch you can help her out by contributing to the food and any other bill. Btw, do your live together?

Yea u might of acted little childish running away just tell her how u feel give her time to think so she can think she don't want u all up her but.

Windstoper, after rereading one of your response I've have to ask does she work? Because if not, not only you, she needs to work too.

Also, you stated she wants to have her cake and eat it to but do you know what that statemen means?

Your right Liz, he doesn't have any cake.

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Windstoper, after rereading one of your response I've have to ask does she work? Because if not, not only you, she needs to work too.

Also, you stated she wants to have her cake and eat it to but do you know what that statemen means?

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No she doesn't work either she give up her job too look after her new born baby and her ex partner left her straight away.Then not long after I met her and she seemed very lonely and depressed.She now tells me that I have given her lots of confidence back but she stilll drinks too much.Know I should get a job but there are no jobs out there at the moment that's why I have applied for college.Hopefully I will get into college and kickstart my own life for myself not her.

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Your right Liz, he doesn't have any cake.

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When I first met her I had a good job and my own work van she had nothing more than a screaming baby and tons of other crap.Took all that on and another thing at the end of the week she is too receive thousands of pounds.This is another reason I think she just has been using me.She is talking of buying a brand new car etc.

Even when times are good, people break up, or just get tired of each other. The reasons are not as important as what adjustments you make to a changing situation.

All that counts is what you do about what has transpired between you, and this female.

Got plans?

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Even when times are good, people break up, or just get tired of each other. The reasons are not as important as what adjustments you make to a changing situation.

All that counts is what you do about what has transpired between you, and this female.

Got plans??

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I want too start at college at least that will keep my away for a while and prove too her that I am not lazy.

You don't have to prove nothing to her because what is she proving to you? Going to college is good and good for your future but what is she doing towards hers? Okay she has a child but many people work or go to school or do both, I did both. So I think your girlfriend might be lazy or full of excuses. Neither one is good in my book.

And if you stay with her while your out doing something worthwile you'd see this too and want more too besides time.

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You don't have to prove nothing to her because what is she proving to you? Going to college is good and good for your future but what is she doing towards hers? Okay she has a child but many people work or go to school or do both, I did both. So I think your girlfriend might be lazy or full of excuses. Neither one is good in my book.

And if you stay with her while your out doing something worthwile you'd see this too and want more too besides time.

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Thanks I agree she drinks very heavily and seems too dream a lot too.Since I have been with her there hasn't been one night she has not had a drink.Makes me wonder if she is for me after all.

Maybe she has a drinking problem that she isn't ready to fess up too and once she see it is a problem hopefully she gets help. Where is her child/ren while she is drinking heavily every night? Again, sounds like she has issues that have nothing to do with you.

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Maybe she has a drinking problem that she isn't ready to fess up too and once she see it is a problem hopefully she gets help. Where is her child/ren while she is drinking heavily every night? Again, sounds like she has issues that have nothing to do with you.

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She does have issues no doubt and does put her child second too drink.Last month she said we were over out of the blue for no reason.A couple of weeks later she knocked on my house at 01.00 in the morning crying her eyes out.She seems very unpredictable in that way she does have issues in my opinion.

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Maybe she has a drinking problem that she isn't ready to fess up too and once she see it is a problem hopefully she gets help. Where is her child/ren while she is drinking heavily every night? Again, sounds like she has issues that have nothing to do with you.

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We got back togheter but split up again about three months ago I have found out recently she has gone mad and had her kids taken away from her why do you think she has done this?

What do you mean by has gone mad? Has she been sectioned? You re split up so it s not your problem anymore.
However if her children have been taken into care it s a tragedy for them.