Today is a better day! I am almost done with having to go to the house! The bad part is I am SICK!

Hi... having read your post, I sincerely believe that it wasn't meant to be, I suspect that the would be Janes of this world were probably around long before your final breakup,although he denys this.
Something or someone had to have triggered his behaviour towards you, so I think it was inevidable that this would happen.

I am so sorry for your pain but I am certain that there is always a reason.

I believe that there is a special person out there just for you who will give back the love that you deserve, so try not to waste any more tears on this guy ( snake in the grass ) he's just not worth it.

When you get yourself settled again, go out and treat yourself to something nice, put on the glad rags and the war paint and have a night out with the girls.

It doesn't have to involve a guy, but you will feel heaps better just feeling like a woman again.

Takecare

Perhaps you are right Orphan! It was not meant to be! I however am willing to fight for what I want! But it is pointless when you are the only one fighting! I am doing the best I can... and taking it day by day! It has been stessed to me that things happen for a reason! I will learn one day what this reason is... however I still want my EX to obtain the KARMA of what goes around comes back around! You still should not treat a person so badly even if you broke up!

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Originally Posted by Trying2Cope

Perhaps you are right Orphan! It was not meant to be! I however am willing to fight for what I want! But it is pointless when you are the only one fighting! I am doing the best I can....and taking it day by day! It has been stessed to me that things happen for a reason! I will learn one day what this reason is... however I still want my EX to obtain the KARMA of what goes around comes back around! You still should not treat a person so badly even if you broke up!

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And yet, at the same time, you should not waste your time focusing so much energy on your ex. Anger is a step we all go through, but when it turns into wasted emotion, is when it hurts you more than anyone else...

I agree kctiger that wasting time on an EX is wasted energy... However, I am curently angry at my current situation... I am still tied to the situation because MY EX will not allow me to get my belongings! Once I am able to get what is rightfully mine... then I can go on with my life once and for all and never have to return to the house... other than that my engergy is focused on ME!

I do have at least some good news... I finally found a new place to call home... a condo... it is small but expensive as hell! At least I can start making new memories on my own terms. My former fiancée is still being a jerk for no reason... still not allowing me access to what is rightfully mine... otherwise I am taking it day by day!

Good for you.
Don't stress over him. I'm glad you are out of there. I wish you well

Well I am not out of there just yet! I do not actually have the keys to the condo just yet! I still have access to house, however as stated before I only go to the house when a family member is available to go with!

One more car load to go and I am out of the house completely and forever... once I am gone for good... my healing will really begin!

Good for you!!
Now live well. It is the best revenge

Thanks Homegirl 50... I will take it one day at a time! I wish though that I did not have to see him so soon! We still have pending court dates...

You will be fine. When you see him again, you will be fine. You are a strong woman.
Keep the faith!

I am completely out of the house now! I am not sure how I feel! I am not sure how you go from one day speaking and the next not communicating at all! We act as if we are strangers! It is weird how this whole situation has panned out! I know that each day I get stronger... we have no contact other than speaking through lawyers! It is so hard to place how I feel about this break-up! Initially I thought that I wasted 4.5 years of my life.. guess I can't think of it that way! I shared myself with my former fiancée for awhile... now it is time to turn the attention on me and live my life! My emotions are currently on a roller coaster ride! Eventually I will be OK as I was before my EX came along! I can't believe that Three months has come along... I am single and really not sad about it... still adjusting to the change... my thoughts are somewhat clearer!

I'm glad you're out now and on the road to recovery.. You will ride the roller coaster for a while, but remind yourself why you are away from there. Take it one day at a time. It will get better.
I wish you well.

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Originally Posted by Trying2Cope

I am completly out of the house now! I am not sure how I feel! I am not sure how you go from one day speaking and the next not communicating at all! We act as if we are strangers! It is weird how this whole situation has panned out! I know that each day I get stronger... we have no contact other than speaking through lawyers! It is so hard to place how I feel about this break-up! Initally I thought that I wasted 4.5 years of my life.. guess I can't think of it that way! I shared myself with my former fiancee for awhile... now it is time to turn the attention on me and live my life! My emotions are currently on a roller coaster ride! Eventually I will be OK as I was before my EX came along! I can't believe that Three months has come along... I am single and really not sad about it.... still adjusting to the change... my thoughts are somewhat clearer!

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A little time and space does wonders, doesn't it? I'm glad you're doing better.

I am very happy for you, and know it will get better. One day at a time.

Thank you all for you support... I am glad that I found this site... wish me luck... we will be in court once again... this Friday!

When love ends there is nothing we can do, just watch the other person go away and wish the best for both