Originally Posted by
ka1
Not to beat a dead horse into the ground, but let me just give an example. I was with my ex 7yrs. I was engaged, and loved her deeply. She has mentioned, before the break-up day, or separation as she puts it, she sees me as being in her life even if we are not a couple. My response to her, and I relate it to you is this:
How does that work exactly? Are we gonna talk on the phone about her new man that she gets eventually? When she does get a new boyfriend are we gonna meet for inappropriate lunches or dinners? On x-mas, since I am so close to her family, am I gonna swing by and see her with her new man, that I know she screwing?
See what I mean? I'm a great friend to have so I can see what she would get from my friendship, but how does that help me? What does that do for me? Especially, given that I do believe that we fit better than anyone else she can find. Loving her the rest of her life, was my job, not someone else's. SO why do I want to see or have in my face that someone has my job.