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Originally Posted by legacy82

I am certainly in favor of therapy, but I feel it might be a challenge to convince her. Communication is often a problem, especially with our love life. She does not believe such topics are supposed to be discussed, but rather such issues are supposed to be worked out naturally (without dialogue).

Personally, I see this approach as a complex and frustrating guessing game. It is difficult enough to convince her to talk to me about what's bothering her, let alone a stranger.

How would you suggest approaching the subject with her?

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If communication is a problem you need to solve that soon as possible, as communication is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Val's idea is a good one. I hope you can convince her to go to counseling. No communication is a deal breaker in my opinion, and after 32 years of marriage, talking to each other honestly is a tremendous asset to a healthy marriage.

Yeah, She need sto be able to talk about things... what she is doing is dumping her thoughts on you, and expecting you to just sit there? That doesn't make sense and that isn't fair. You are not going to be able to hold all of her fears, wonder what she is going to do next, and not be able to talk about it rationally. That will be really difficult and unfair to both of you. Please reall ythink about the communication issue as being KEY in a relationship...