Stay there and drive her crazy so she can leave. If she has male company, they won't like the fact that she's still living with her ex.

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Originally Posted by vjonesv

stay there and drive her crazy so she can leave. If she has male company, they won't like the fact that she's still living with her ex.

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Now there is a great suggestion... play games with your ex girlfriend... :rolleyes:

You want to know how to do it.

Watch "The Break Up"

Plain And Simple

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Finding another girl is like putting a band aid over a bullet wound. It won't do anything but provide a little stoppage but not much else. Take time to heal and you will be thankful later.

Want proof? My ex jumped into another relationship after we broke up, now she texts me wanting me back and is in a relationship faking her feelings.

I took time to heal(read my posts) and learned more about myself and now I am happily with someone who I love

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But the hurt right now is not knowing if another girl will come along. I need to know at least that much now. I don't plan on jumping into serious relationship, just lite dating so that I know when I jump in head first I will have that confidance. Also like I stated before I just need some girl friends of my own that weren't girlfriends of my ex's to boost myself esteem.

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Originally Posted by vjonesv

stay there and drive her crazy so she can leave. If she has male company, they won't like the fact that she's still living with her ex.

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I wouldn't feel good about doing that plus I know that would only backfire like you would not believe. Plus I know she would not have male company because I could make that situation feel as unwelcome as possible with out saying a word, and maybe ,just maybe she might have the smarts to know not to do that.

The thing is, if you find a girl to "boost your confidence," once that girl is gone, your confidence will be down in the dumps again. Just because you're going through vicodin withdrawal doesn't mean you should continue to use vicodin. It's a temporary fix.

What you need to do is find a final solution for your confidence problem. Get out, hang out with your friends, spend time with family, etc.

Join a gym... perfect solution to your confidence problem

This is very unhealthy you need to get out.

Move out and then worry about the other obstacles at a later time once you are sorted and back on your feet straight.

Have you got friends or family that you could go move in with for a short time while you get yourself back on your feet.

Yeah Im starting to see how bad it can get. Currently it turing into a battle of the scents. I guess she is doing the typical girl thing of moving on in buying new cloths and stuff but the bad one is the perfume spray crap. I woke up this morning to get ready for work and almost gagged from the smell. The fact is I know she is spraying herself down to pick someone else up and I admit even though I don't give a crap what she does with her life now, it does bother me. Im half tmeped to spray down all her cloths with colone but I know that would start a really big war. I know who she is spraying down for and it's a guy who tried to break us up years ago and I should have dumped her then but they don't have a time machine for me to go back and fix that mistake.


The only solution I can think of is if I pay all the rent for February and she moves out by the end of January. Then I would only have to deall with here to clean the apt and pay the final fee

Don't play games with woman, they always win. That is a man-rule that most dudes simply have way too much pride to stick to. Just be the bigger man and find a way to end this situation immediately.

What makes you think she will leave if you pay the rent yourself?? If she can buy clothes and perfume, and go out, she can pay the rent. I would have been long gone or moved a few buds in.

You ain't handling your business.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

What makes you think she will leave if you pay the rent yourself??? If she can buy clothes and perfume, and go out, she can pay the rent. I would have been long gone or moved a few buds in.

You ain't handling your business.

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You're right

Ive got some friend that could move in but they are on unemployment and I don't know when that runs out for them. I think all the cookware and the bed is hers so If I kicked her out early I woundt have much left.

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Originally Posted by yobro

you're right

Ive got some friend that could move in but they are on unemployment and I dont know when that runs out for them. I think all the cookware and the bed is hers so If I kicked her out early I woundt have much left.

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You would have your dignity and pride left, and your sense of life. That is all that matters right now. As long as she lives with you, your sanity isn't really sanity...

Im going through the same thing. I have a mortgage with my partner and I want out. We got a 2year fixed rate and it's only been 18months.
It's a hard situation to be in!!

Update

Its so horrible. We broke up on the 2nd and I found out now that she is planning to sleep with the guy that tried to break us up a long time ago as soon as she is off the rag. What a . Im chompin at the bit to call her a slut and whore but she doesn't know that I am aware of her plans. Im not attracted to her at all she is fat and saggy now. Its just that Im jelous that I don't have anyone to move on with. How do I fight this jelousy. I don't even know how to get a one night stand just to feel better.

Anyone?

Handle your business, and cry later.

Horrible mentality to say you need to move onto someone. Move on by yourself. Yes, it will suck, but in the end, you'll feel much betteer.

Most rental offices will allow one person to leave the lease if the other occupant stays. Go to the rental office and get taken off the lease and then it's her problem. She'll find another roommate. You can't let it go on your credit it will haunt you for years. Some apartments will allow you to break a lease without a fee if you give them 30 days notice, but they keep your deposit. Go talk to your landlord and be honest. I am sure they would rather allow you to leave then be in an environment that could be potentially harmful for all parties including them.

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Originally Posted by stayc4you

Most rental offices will allow one person to leave the lease if the other occupant stays. Go to the rental office and get taken off the lease and then it's her problem. She'll find another roommate. You can't let it go on your credit it will haunt you for years. Some apartments will allow you to break a lease without a fee if you give them 30 days notice, but they keep your deposit. Go talk to your landlord and be honest. I am sure they would rather allow you to leave then be in an environment that could be potentially harmful for all parties including them.

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This is legally incorrect - a person cannot be taken off a lease unless the other party consents, at least in my State, which is NY. I cannot suddenly be 100% responsible for the rent because the cosigner wants out.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

This is legally incorrect - a person cannot be taken off a lease unless the other party consents, at least in my State, which is NY. I cannot suddenly be 100% responsible for the rent because the cosigner wants out.

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Do you have some personal vindetta against me? I am sorry if I offended you with my answers or opinions, but I have said nothing on this board that you haven't criticized. In my state that is perfectly legal.