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  • Dec 8, 2008, 06:51 AM
    kctiger

    I know how you feel, and it does hurt. I think what you have to remember now is that it can't get any worse. This was probably the last thing you wanted to see, and you saw it. Does it suck? YES. It is absolutely painful and cuts you deep. The good news... you can only go up from here. You have pretty much hit rock bottom now, so as bad as the storm was, the center of it has passed. Clearer days will be ahead if you can be proactive enough to let this go and focus on your own life. This is the progression of life, people breaking up and getting with other people. It was bound to happen, now learn to accept that and start making yourself happy. Who is to say, that she doesn't walk into a movie theater a few months from now and you are with your new girlfriend... I am sure that would sting her a bit too. No one wants to see that, but it is reality.
  • Dec 9, 2008, 01:12 PM
    DtheDevil

    Well, I've chosen to go to study overseas, so I think I won't meet her anymore, which would help me a lot. It's also my first loving someone and also first time being rejected. At first, I didn't how it would feel, I didn't know that it would hurt this much. And thank you all for the advice.
  • Dec 10, 2008, 12:53 PM
    DtheDevil

    OMG, today I met with her again and she hug me and cried and said ", just find another girl, I can't take it seeing u being hurt because of me" hahhaha, she just talked to me and cried and hug me... omg... this is joke... hahha... I'm like a toy with her
  • Dec 10, 2008, 12:55 PM
    kctiger

    Get her out of your life man. She is trying to make you think she feels bad... Whatever! I would have just laughed in her face.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 01:53 PM
    DtheDevil

    Kctiger you're right, today she hurt me really bad. Why does she appear in front of me with her fake tears, when I was just about to forget her, OMG, why is she trying to harm me? Why is she toying with my feelings? Is that because I loved her too much? Are my feelings towards her a bad thing? Did it hurt her? OMG, I can't rid of her, I deleted her contact, everything, why must she always appear with her boyfriend in front of me, why is she always so? What bad things did I do to her? WHYYYYYYYYYY? OMG, I cried the whole night, have temperature and don't know what else. I want to have a happy Christmas. She destroyed my heart, played with my feelings, misused me, am I that bad person? Or what? But why do I still love her? Why? Even though I knew those tears were fake ones, I felt so... OMG, I need someone who would give me a shoulder on which I can cry.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 02:01 PM
    kctiger

    You are all right, trust me. Cry it out if you have to. I know it sucks, but these bad times don't last forever, and when they pass the good times are even sweeter!! Vent away my friend!
  • Dec 11, 2008, 02:10 PM
    DtheDevil

    OMG, I want to forget about her so hard, I dun want to have these emotions, it hurts, it hurts. It hurts bad... it hurts that bad that my personality is changing and everything, who would say that from a inexperienced, happy guy... become this person now. I wrote to her: " Don't toy with me anymore, I'm also a person with a soul, don't you feel bad doing these things to me? It hurts when you don't that what I'm feeling towards, but what hurts more, is that you're ruining my personality. I love you so much, yet, u still wanna hurt me".
  • Dec 11, 2008, 02:11 PM
    kctiger

    Quit talking to her man! She doesn't care. Do NOT let her win by showing that it hurts you. Screw her... do not let her win, period! Breathe and calm down a bit, I know it is hard, but you can do it.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 02:12 PM
    DtheDevil

    Yeah thanks I will do it, but you know, I still feel some love towards her, but it fades away day by day, so I'm happy about it. You were a big help, really.
  • Dec 11, 2008, 02:16 PM
    kctiger

    Dude, I know exactly what you are going through, trust me. It takes time, but it will get better. Life has a funny way of working things out... unpredictable, yes. But in the end, we will be much happier!
  • Dec 14, 2008, 03:16 AM
    DtheDevil

    Her boyfriend dumped her, that stupid bastard. OMG, I think it's harder to forget her, then to get her by hardworking. Now I will try my best to persuade her. I think I won't be hurt anymore, as now as I am, I am hurt at the highest level and can't be sadder anymore. So I will try haaaaaaaaaaard. I will never give up on her, until she will marry someone
  • Dec 17, 2008, 07:37 AM
    AlexLovesU
    I know how you feel man , and the solution is very simple.
    It worked for me and I hope it will work for you too.

    Ask some other girls out and hopefully you will keep in touch with one of them.Sooner or later you will forget about her... Other girls will make you forget about her, and who knows , if you get to love one of them , maybe they will love you back.
  • Dec 18, 2008, 10:25 AM
    DtheDevil

    OMG :( I broke my leg. I was talking with her and she said that she would love me back if I jumped out of the window (4th floor), because I said that I would do everything for her so she would like me back. I jumped, but still she doesn't love me. And she said that I'm a stupid retard. :( She lied to me. Why did I believe her? This Xmas and new Year I think I won't be able to go anywhere as my leg is.. . My friend know this and he cried in front of me, OMG. Things are getting more and more complicated, I've tried to like other girls, buy it is so hard. :(
  • Dec 18, 2008, 10:27 AM
    kctiger

    You jumped out of a window for her? Are you serious? Get professional help NOW! You are lucky I am not in front of you right now. She is not worth it, so quit letting her make you weaker than you are. You are much stronger than you give yourself credit for!!
  • Dec 18, 2008, 11:33 AM
    talaniman

    Just when you think... nevermind!
  • Dec 18, 2008, 11:41 AM
    TrueFaith

    You jumped out a window
    I'm sorry but that is really pathetic

    I really don't feel sorry for weak people like you
    I have been threw more than you can imagen. And I have always fought

    You disgust me boy
  • Jan 10, 2009, 06:41 PM
    DtheDevil

    I fought like hell, she is manipulating my love... my leg will be OK in a month, gosh, one sided love hurts, her boyfriend beat me up... he went to my house and beat me up... it sucks.. I hatethis world
  • Jan 10, 2009, 06:43 PM
    kctiger
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DtheDevil View Post
    I fought like hell, she is manipulating my love.................my leg will be ok in a month, gosh, one sided love hurts, her bf beat me up....he went to my house and beat me up...it sucks..I hatethis world

    All right... now am starting to think this is all BS. I smell a rat!

    Either way, you need to grow up, and quit acting like this. If this is true, then leave her alone. You are borderline stalkerish...

    Get some help man, none of us on here are getting any sense into you.
  • Jan 10, 2009, 06:54 PM
    Alty

    Quote:

    You are borderline stalkerish...
    I think we've crossed into full on stalker.

    DtheDevil, if you aren't a troll then you need serious help. You are letting the supposed love of someone ruin your entire life. This isn't love, this is obsession, and you need help!

    Rejection is part of life, get used to it, this won't be the last time. You either suck it up, move on, get over it, or you end up hurting yourself and others around you.

    You are the only one who has the power to change this, so buck up and do it already. No more pity party, it's time to grow a spine and start living your life without her in it.

    As for jumping out a window, what did you think that would accomplish, her pity love?

    Really, get professional help!
  • Jan 10, 2009, 06:58 PM
    TrueFaith

    Yeah I think this sounds like b s as well
    You should grow up

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