Ask Me Help Desk - Girlfriend broke our hearts, I don't know what to do?

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Anyway this girl is way hotter than my ex in both looks and body. But what I like the most is the fact that we like each other equally. We have so much in common, there is never silence when we are together. She will phone me a lot too. And she will do anything that I suggest.

If this is your criteria for a girlfriend then I'm really not surprised that your ex ran.

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but as we kiss good night to each other, she knows that I will seeing my other girl within the next 24 hrs. And that she can never have me back, its feels like we are breaking up again every time when we finish hanging out. It's messing with her brain. I have been cuddling with her every time I see her, and we kiss sometimes. And she seems to enjoy it. But someday she will not be interested. She is so weird.

Your other girl? Why are you cheating on this new hotter do anyting you want girl? I thought she was a dream come true.

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when the ex boyfriend finds a hot girl right now, they just get jealous, thinking that this guy must a magnet, now I lost him to someone else.

You're playing a dangerous game, and someone will get hurt.

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For some reason this makes me feel better that she is so hurt right now. Maybe I just think she deserves this as she has been a pretty bad girlfriend to me at times and the main reason is because she did break my heart. I was very hurt for the whole December, that's why I want revenge which I got it. And I got over it, and I have a great girl that I enjoy seeing now.

Oh you, you love her all right, so much that you want to make her suffer, make her pay for what you think she did to you.

I've dated guys like you, and all I can say is thank goodness I woke up and walked away. I'm pretty sure your ex will soon realize that she's the lucky one, not your new girlfriend who is only a pawn in your sick little game.

If you can't see how wrong this is then at least break up with the other girl and get your head on straight before you start dating again.

Also, No contact with the ex, you aren't helping yourself and the only thing you want in your relationship with her is to make her feel terrible.

When it comes to having a girlfriend, female and guy friends, I have standard. I am in the military, I have a pretty good look and body. And girls that are not fit aren't my type, period. My ex has gained a lot of weight since we met. Let's just say she weight at least 30 pounds more than me and she is shorter than me. Then couple months later my best friend told me to watch my woman, case she is getting fat. That's what we do, we keep each other on our toes. So I looked at the old pics and I saw a huge difference. If I am really that shallow, I would have tell her that she was fat or left her. But I love her so that's all it matter. I still find her hot despite of that fact. And believe me I DON'T like fat girls at all. Believe me I have tried telling to her to go run or play ball with me, she refused to do any sport activities with me. The only exercise we do together is shopping in malls.

I don't know if that's cheating or not when giving good bye kisses to my ex. The reason is I didn't think I am all over my ex yet, so it's not fair to start a relationship. The new girl I met is not my girlfriend yet. I never ask what she is doing on the days that we don't see each other. We didn't make any exclusive rules. But I know she wants to be my girlfriend, we just haven't talked about it yet.

I really don't know the main reason why I want her to feel bad. Maybe I don't like how she handle the breakup which hurt me so much. Maybe I just think that she is like a lot of girls that never fall in love with a guy that treat her nice. She was everything to me, and she just ended it one day without any warning. That showed how much she cared about a 10 month relationship eh. I found out that I lot of her reasons that she gave me for beaking up were lies. I even told her straight up explaining to her points by points. She was speechless. Her defense was that she maybe crazy, and that she didn't know. I even asked her if she was like that all the time her whole life. Like casually dating guys then dumping them for absolutely no reason. She said she can't remember. I am sure she did because she has dated 4 other guys and she dumped them all. Another thing is sometimes she treated me worse than what I think she did. That's from my male and female friends points of views.

She keep saying that she dosen't want to lose a friend like me. And it will take a long time for us to be good friends. I don't know if I want a friend like her who can hurt my feeling so much without thinking about me first but only caring about herself most of the time. She even say it to my face that she is selfish. Bottom line is, I lost a lot of respect from my friends and families because I got dumbed by a heartless fat girl who I loved. This will stay with me for the rest of life. I never thought I would fall in love with a girl that weight more than me my whole life, but I did. I was so dumb that I tried for weeks to save the relationship. What the hell was I thinking? This is good learning experience for me though.

I think she needs to get a taste of a hurt feeling because all she did was hurting others' feelings her whole life. Now that I am seeing a different girl. I can see how ty of a girlfriend that she was to me. And I was so blind that I didn't care.

I won't be contacting my ex anymore since she is a waste of time to me anyway. She didn't appreciate enough for a good guy like me and she dosen't know what she want even though she is older than me. She told me that she won all the other breakups with all her ex because she got over it faster than them. Well I guess she finally taste the defeat and that this would be good for her lesson so she understands how it feels. I hope she won't hurt the next guy she came across to.

It's really funny though. Between my ex and I. I have gone from fun, lust, falling in love, in love, getting dumped (worst month of my life), missing her, hating her to wanting to hurt her feelings.

As for my new girl. I can't be any happier when we our time together. We have a blast every time we see each other. She is too shy to ask me. So I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend this Sat. I have found a girl that I always wanted. She is good on the outside and inside. I feel like that I have seen a new world.

As for my ex. I will try my best to be friends with her once she is over me. But I really doubt how good of a friend she will be. I want to think of our good memories when I think of her instead of our horrible breakup experience.

Something's I learned from dating experts online that's very true. When you get dumped by your girl, don't try to save the relationship because if you beg, she couldn't care less about you. So forget about her. GET YOUR POWER BACK. Feel strong, go out to meet girls. When you find a new girl, your ex will see that you moved on so quick and she may want you back. But why would you want your ex back anyway? She is going to dump you again anyway because the same problems will arise, unless you just want to have sex with her, but that's not worth it. Go find a better girl that will appreciate you more.

I really don't know what to say to you after reading that last post you made.

Saying nothing may be best

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Originally Posted by ArmyCANUCKS

When it comes to having a gf, female and guy friends, I have standard. I am in the military, I have a pretty good look and body. And girls that are not fit aren't my type, period. My ex has gained a lot of weight since we met. Let's just say she weight at least 30 pounds more than me and she is shorter than me. Then couple months later my best friend told me to watch my woman, case she is getting fat. That's what we do, we keep eachother on our toes. So I looked at the old pics and I saw a huge difference. If I am really that shallow, I would have tell her that she was fat or left her. But I love her so that's all it matter. I still find her hot despite of that fact. And believe me I DON'T like fat girls at all. Believe me I have tried telling to her to go run or play ball with me, she refused to do any sport activities with me. The only exercise we do together is shopping in malls.

Well... allow me to retort..

Believe me... if you weren't that shallow, this paragraph wouldn't have been in your post. I can only think of a couple of reasons, or few, that you would include this:

1. You are really shallow, and want the entire board to know you did her a favor by staying with her, even though she was "fat"

2. You obviously think you are God's gift to women (I will snicker at that, no harm intended)

3. You truly believe you are a good guy, and out of your undying love and affection, you chose to stand by her side, even while she gained an incredible 30 pounds. How selfish was she to think that being "fat" with a boyfriend like you was acceptable.

I am sure you will get what is coming to you. Your attitude reeks of cockiness and pure a$$ holishness... I don't mind saying it, as others on this board think it as well. Perhaps I am wrong, and I misinterpret your writings... but, somehow, I sincerely doubt that.

You want to walk around with these big shoulders, and think that because your heart was broken that the world owes you something? Is that what you think? Correct me if I am wrong...

Stay classy man!

Carry on... :cool:

Couldn't give you rep but AMEN - I chose to say nothing otherwise Iwould have got very pissed off

Well yeah I am a shallow person, let me ask though, how many of you here will actually date a fat guy or a fat girl if you are in shape? So I am shallow as some of you guys think, that dosen't mean that I wasn't a good boyfriend to my ex. And I never hurt her feeling intentionally. She had never had a boyfriend that loved her like I did. I do think that I did her a favor by staying with her. The way she look now, she won't get any decent looking or hot guys at all unless they like the chubby type. I am not even proud to show her pics to people. My new girl thinks that she is ugly when she saw the pic of her. That's how I feel now as I was very blind.

I was being stupid for falling in love with her because she never put too much of an effort into the relationship anyway. I wish I would have been smart enough to know that she was never the right type of girl to fall in love with. I did everything for her. Help her out during her tough times. Always there for her when she needed me. She was my first priority. Last week, my dad just told me that he hated her the whole time, he said she was very disrepectful to him and she was too fat for me. My dad was nice enough to tell me this after we broke up. Yeah thank god we are not together anymore. Yeah and my parents are super chill people.

Anyway, I have a new girlfriend now since last Sat. Guess what if me and my ex were still together, then that day would have been our one year anniversary. Too bad she was out looking for guys that night, and I know I have a great girl waiting for me already.

It may sound like I am a jackass, but she did this to me. Before I was constantly thinking about her everyday. Thinking of things that we could do together. I even wanted to get her back after she broke up with me. But I just realized that she was the shallowest one because she wanted me for my looks the whole time. She finally got a job that wanted her whole life, so she is financially stable. She never cared about me much and she got tired of me. Then boom I got dumbed.

Looks like we have a whole family full of victims now huh? Be first class! Who cares about her anymore? Quit blasting her and get on with your life! Don't ever turn yourself into a victim, you are just riding the self pitty train, and you know it. You are better than that!

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The way she look now, she won't get any decent looking or hot guys at all unless they like the chubby type.

Sweetie, you are proof positive that not all hot looking guys are decent. Hopefully she's not as vain and shallow as you.

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It may sound like I am a jackass,

May? Um, no, there's no doubt that you do.

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But I just realized that she was the shallowest one because she wanted me for my looks the whole time.

Really? Really? OMG, biting my tongue! Okay, honey, maybe being "good looking" is the only thing you've got going for you and that's why she dumped you. Have no doubt, she'll realize very quickly that she made the right choice. Heck, I've only "known" you a short time, I've never seen you, and by personality alone I can tell you without a doubt that I would never, ever date you.

Get over yourself, otherwise the new girl will quickly move on as well.

Looks fade, being a jerk is forever, unless you change it!

I've read through this whole thing and everyone is right , you'll never have a good relationship with this type of behaviour... sheesh.

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Originally Posted by ArmyCANUCKS

It may sound like I am a jackass

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