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  • Nov 29, 2008, 05:57 PM
    aedude006

    I'm sorry I shouldn't have used that title
  • Nov 29, 2008, 05:59 PM
    aedude006
    She said she needs time to think but there is another guy in the picture, but when I mension anything about being on a break I can see it in her face the chances aren't good
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:00 PM
    kctiger

    Reality check:

    Break = Broken Up

    It is the way of the world. If you guys aren't together, then you are broken up. A break is merely an easy way of telling someone you don't want to be with them anymore, but you would rather not hurt their feelings, so you say, "Let's take a break."
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:06 PM
    aedude006

    I believe you but at the same time I hope your not right, I don't know, I just need to get out around people, but like I said I don't party because I don't drink, and that's the main way of meating people around here
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:09 PM
    N0help4u

    Forget her! Move on and get a life. You can't live your life through somebody else and most girls hate guys that HAVE to have them.
    They want a guy that stands up for himself and isn't falling all over her. They don't want some whimpering I have to have her or I will die mentality in their guy. Look at guys that girls go for and you will see it isn't the ones that are obsessing over the girl.
    Girls want a guy that has charisma and an independence about them. When you cry over a girl it shows that you lack many things that a girl wants in a guy.
    She most likely sees your devotion to her as weaknesses and it most likely turns her off. No girl wants a guy that has made her his whole world.
    If you were meant to be she would not leave you like that.
    You are not the first one to feel sick over losing a love and you will not be the last. We all go through it at sometime. Most often in hindsight we are glad that it wasn't meant to be even though it may have taken months to get over.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:12 PM
    aedude006

    I know for a fact that she would want me to fight for her though
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:18 PM
    N0help4u

    So how would you plan to fight for her?
    What types of things can you do to 'win her back'?
    If you don't have a good plan you will most likely end up looking stupid and justifying her reasons for leaving you.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:30 PM
    womaningirl

    Well I personally think you should give her some time

    U said that you went to her house on this break, bad idea
    The point of the break is so you and her can take some time to think so take it

    Ocupy your time on something that would take your mind off her

    And the part that you do things for her has to stop
    If you are attending school and have a job should be for your own progress and success not for a woman
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:34 PM
    N0help4u
    Sometimes when a girl sees you can live without her and do quite well it is more attractive to her than pathetically hounding her with whining about your losing her. Get a life and let her see what she is missing.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:37 PM
    TrueFaith

    Hey there just checking in

    Yup I still see you can't FACE reality
    And your brain is just about 7 million light years out of your Skull.

    You can't face facts

    Every post that has tried to help you. You have come back with. I know she loves me and I we are on a break

    So if you can't accept that there is a problem. And as I said are not willing to listen.

    Then. Guess I will see you later
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:44 PM
    aedude006

    Okay, well is there anything I can take for my stomach? Like I said I can't drink, I can't eat, and the pain in my upper stomach is almost more than I can take.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:45 PM
    N0help4u

    Yep a reality check!
    I think the only hope you have to actually see reality is to
    Ask her to tell you ''BLUNTLY and hold nothing back'' what are the things about you that she doesn't like that she sees you needing to change and work on them.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:49 PM
    aedude006

    Other than that, my stomach hurts so much what over the counter drug can I take to help with this?
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:52 PM
    aedude006
    Anybody with any experience with a certain product? I can get over the emotions, but I'd like to do it without any stomach pains, and I want to be able to eat. It feels like if I did eat something I would just throw it up right away
  • Nov 29, 2008, 06:59 PM
    N0help4u

    Try taking papaya enzymes they help with most stomach ailments.
    Drink ginger ale and lemon lime soda's, eat pineapple and fruits and try to eat regular meals and healthy snacks.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 07:56 PM
    TrueFaith

    Go to the doctors

    You probable gave yourself a small Olsa.

    You probable did not eat anything for a few days and was worring way too much. And the acids probable burnt a bit of your stomock lining.

    Stress gets you so messt up as well.

    Try Relaxing a bit. Read a book and take your mind of this crap.

    Also

    Get yourself checked out
  • Nov 29, 2008, 08:07 PM
    talaniman

    Typical for the first time break up. It's the hardest thing you have ever been through.

    She ain't coming back so man up, and get over it.

    Maybe you can't see it now, but there are other females out there for you to practice your french kissing with.
  • Nov 29, 2008, 08:18 PM
    stephacoelho

    You definitely need to do things for yourself. It may seem like the end of the world right now. Have you ever heard the country song "Thank God for unanswered prayers?" It's so true! I was in the same situation (my boyfriend/fiance at the time, 14 years ago, broke up, but kept coming around... I finally told him to leave me alone. I would always think "he does want me!") After that, I dated who and when I wanted to and I was in a much better place emotionally. I met my husband and we have a wonderful life and have been married almost 12 years. It will happen, but you just have to get over her-and it will take time. Spend time with family, volunteer somewhere, go to church, concentrate on school and be open to new friendships. If she broke up with you and is saying she wants to date someone else, DON'T wait around for her. One day you'll meet "the one"! But, don't rush into a relationship, take your time:)
  • Nov 29, 2008, 08:45 PM
    inthebox

    Quote:


    I told her she could see however many guys she wanted and have sex as much as she wanted and I would still be waiting for her


    Would she be okay with you seeing other girls [ not necessarily intimate, just friendly ]?

    If she is okay with that, then your both moving on.

    If she goes with other guys and expects you just to be with her, no one is worth that.


    Either way, it is better to suffer now, get it over with, and move on.












    g&p
  • Nov 29, 2008, 08:48 PM
    aedude006

    She just texted me saying she wants to hang out tomorrow morning, I told her okay...
    I'll see how it goes and get back to you all

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