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  • Dec 19, 2008, 07:20 AM
    jmw0713
    I think she is playing with your head and your playing along. You are her yo-yo boy. When she wants you you're there. When she doesn't your a$$ hits the curb.

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    As long as she's sorry and doesn't think I'm the person she left, and she's grown up, I'll forgive her, I told her I'm not taking her back, or at least not yet. But if we come to a level ground where we finally understand each other, I have no problem taking her back.
    You already think she wants to get back with you when she has not said one word about it. You're setting yourself back up for a big let down. I don't think you are ready to be buddy buddy with this girl. You need more time to see who is out there besides her.

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    Well as far as I know she still has a boyfriend, and when I said since we'll be coming back late, you may have to spend the night, she said she has to find out with her parents. No boyfriend has been mentioned yet.
    She probably still has her BF, but doesn't want to mention it to you because:

    1. She doesn't want your feelings to get hurt.
    2. She wants to get that comfort and security back that she had with you. She mentions him... you're out the door.

    I don't think this is a good situation for you as you have only been broken-up for a few months. Definitely not enough time for you. What makes you think that she has any intentions of getting back with you, especially since you know she has moved on already and may have a BF?

    I think you're playing with fire. Don't be the yo-yo. You're better than that. SHE IS PLAYING YOU!
  • Dec 19, 2008, 07:40 AM
    talaniman
    The fact she is so friendly after you press for the bracelet is telling and could mean that she ain't going to give it back, but intends to play nice and keep it. She knows its all over after she returns it.

    Another thing I think even more important, why would she honestly not be upfront if she has a b/f. Are you sure or are you assuming?

    Another red flag is going out with you and maybe staying the night! That's the real red flag to me, as going from can we at least be friends to dating again, sorry guy, there is something missing here.

    I really think your playing by her rules, and the bracelet is a big excuse for contact, that she has taken full advantage of.

    You still have no bracelet
    You still are not together
    Your still acting like a boyfriend
    Your still open to contact with her, after no contact.

    You tell me why she would come back, when she has all the above already? What do you have, let's see,. questions... hmmmm!!

    As long as you put her interest above yours, and still can't see it that way, you need a lot more time to heal. Then maybe you'll see how to stand up for your side, and end the false hope, and fear of losing her.

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