Thanks for the compliment dear.
I hate to SMS on cell phones, I don't enjoy 'texting' on any messenger because what I have to say comes from inside and cannot be expressed in the 'new-fangled' language that not all understand. I find it frustrating.

The only people I open my messenger or webcam to are my immediate family -and by appointment.

But rest assured, there will always be someone here on this site 24/7 to help you - and people from all over the world, so you can't go wrong staying here with us.

Til next time,

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So she called me at lunch time.. aka 2 minutes ago and wanted to know everything about the job. As soon as I told her she said she needed to go because she has to study (for the CPA test coming in 1 month) so I let her go.. asked if maybe I could come over later but again she said she needed to study. She is making the contact, I am trying to capatilize on it.. I REALLY DON'T know how to take her signals.. She cares so much for me its obvious.. we have plans to do stuff during the week so its not like she is avoiding me.. Plus this is a really bad week for her as with the break up she has fallen behind in her studies. Every day that goes by I feel like she gets more comfortable with me, but I don't want to assume something, get my hopes up and be in this situation again.. Im looking for a woman glyph reader that can maybe unscramble what's going on.. say one thing do another.. I don't get it

5 minutes after we hung up the phone I receive this text "im sorry i just ahve so little time right now and im trying tos hard to get this studying done and pass my exam so its behind me and i dont have to worry about it anymore. Im sorry i don't have any time."

My reply" I am here for you, to be understanding and help you."

Insight?

Im sorry for this I hit submit too soon she replied to me "I haven't forgotten you, its just that in this case you can't help me. Its something i have to do alone and unfortunately takes up most of my time."

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She is making the contact, I am trying to capatilize on it.. I REALLY DON'T know how to take her signals..

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I would love to reach through this computer, and make you relax. Let her study, and find a life that you enjoy without her in it. In a nutshell, that's your problem!! You have no life of your own.

Even if you had a female that didn't mind you being in her face all the time, you still wouldn't be happy.

Your pushing way to hard!!!!

Am I aloud to bump? Hehe really curious what anyone thinks about our text conversation

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am i aloud to bump? hehe really curious what anyone thinks about our text convo

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Your pushing way to hard and need to get a life of your own! She sounds cool though. She probably catches hell from slowing your needy butt, down to reality though.

Dude you have to sierously relax

This is not health.
You will push her away if you keep on like this. Do some stuff on your own
Get your own life.

I mean wow.. as I said before work on yourself. And just take it easy with the girl

We think you're reading mountains into these simple molehills. Her words mean EXACTLY what she said, nothing more. Anything you add is just fantasy. You can do that, I'll admit, but we can't tell you your added fantasy thoughts mean anything, can we?

You can believe what she says. If she changes her mind and SAYS something completely different, then you can believe that. I'm sure she MEANS what she says when she says it.

If she says she's too busy to date seriously, but still texts you and calls on occasion, then you can believe she's too busy to date seriously but has time for a phone or text conversation.

You title this thread confusing signals, but there's nothing confusing here except maybe the stuff you're adding back on top. As soon you stop doing that... look! No more confusion.

What part of 'don't push'; 'let her take the lead'; 'relax'; 'TIME' did you not understand???

She does not need to hear from a guy who messed up that 'you'll be there for her and understand and want to help' because we know that you don't really mean that. The real translation is that 'I want to see you and want to be understood and helped by you some more'.

She understands exactly where you are coming from. She is giving you her little finger and you are GRABBING the whole hand here.

Get your personal life in order and your state of mind balanced. Stop being clingy and needy or you'll turn her off and she'll be out faster than you can blink.

Was that female glyph enough? She's telling it like it is, plain and simple, - no need to look for smoke signals or anything else.

You want her confirmation that you are an OK guy after all... but you are NOT, not yet - AND YOU KNOW IT. You messed up and she is giving you a chance, so listen up and back off. Talk to your therapist, talk to friends, but give her space or she will not give you another chance.

You don't listen. It frustrates me because I feel I'm wasting my time explaining things to you and you only catch a few words that make you feel better.

I hope my signals are strong enough now! I only know you for a few hours, but if it were me, I'd be gone already.

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Im sorry.. I'm listening to every word you said.. I have not contact her today, she has contacted me every time and I just talk to her until she says OK see you! Then I don't contact her again. I am scared, and hurt, but I am doing what your saying. Im feeling out all the answers.. trying to mesh them all together to get one big picture. Im not ignoring or counting out anything. Im sorry if you got frustrated thinking I wasn't listening to what you where saying, and your right it's a weakness of mine I just want to hear people say Ryan, she is giving you another chance to prove yourself, just do this.. Like you said.. Thank you

Im going to be honest and I don't want you to be upset again like I'm not listening to what your saying.. because I am.. But I know what needs to be done, I know the steps I need to take.. I just wanted to hear from people that she was in fact giving me another chance.. I don't know why, but that's what I had hoped for...

Its tough love man.

If we didn't care. We wouldn't act like this.
That's why I get so hot headed at times.

Remember that.

We all want you to do better and get better.

I know you do, I wasn't getting upset with you.. I know what I NEED to do and I am GOING to do it.. I don't know why I want to just hear people say it.. and it sounds pathetic.. but I want to know if people really think she is giving me another shot.. or if she's not.. don't know why, but it means a lot that I hear opinions.

Haha I'm going to get flamed for doing this.. but I found a song that actually is EXACTLY how I feel. Wanted to share it.

Here by me by 3 doors down

I hope you're doing fine out there without me
'Cause I'm not doing so good without you
The things I thought you'd never know about me
Were the things I guess you always understood

So how could I have been so blind for all these years?
Guess I only see the truth through all this fear,
And living without you…

And everything I have in this world
And all that I'll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

I can't take another day without you
'Cause baby, I could never make it on my own
I've been waiting so long, just to hold you
And to be back in your arms where I belong

Sorry I can't always find the words to say
But everything I've ever known gets swept away
Inside of your love…

And everything I have in this world
And all that I'll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

As the days grow long I see
That time is standing still for me
When you're not here

Sorry I can't always find the words to say
Everything I've ever known gets swept away
Inside of your love

And everything I have in this world
And all that I'll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

And everything I have in this world
And all that I'll ever be
It could all fall down around me.
Just as long as I have you,
Right here by me.

We know it's your decision dear,and I do hope you get to your goal, but please remember that she has a lot on her mind and needs some time, so send her eCards, flowers, poems, but don't demand any more of her time than what she is offering right now.

There is a point to the phrase ''all good things come to those who wait''.

And you need to wait for the right opportunity. When she has less stress and spends time with you to unwind. And have some fun. Until then, spend some time doing something constructive for yourself and stay busy.

Can you do that?

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Cozie

We all have songs that sums up our lives or our relationships :)

And you want to know something.
That was my song to for a while lol

3 doors down is great.

I use to listen to Old town by thin lizzy
Or Shine acoustic by muse

But yeah that's for a different topic :P

I am doing it and trying very hard. She told me last night when she called me to say goodnight (we do it every night) That she promisedme every free second she had she would spend it with me because I was her best friend. I think that with time and her seeing I'm getting my stuff put back together that her and I will be together again.. I just need to be patient and do the right things.

Thank you every one.. I know what I need to do know, and I feel confident that I can get her to come back to me so we can give it another shot, I just need to put in the time and get to know myself and improve myself. I think she is taking some time to trust me again and see if I am getting my life in order.. I think she is pushing me away so that I do feel separate from her to see how I act on my own.. But I really feel like even just over the course of the past few days she is talking to me more and letting me in more. I just need to play it cool and wait for it to happen. I just hope to god that she really just does see me as a friend, and that she really is just going to be friends with me and this is how its going to be.. I just can't believe she doesn't have feelings anymore so I have to hope.. Anyway.. Play it cool, get to know myself.. relax.

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Thank you every one.. i know what i need to do know, and i feel confident that i can get her to come back to me so we can give it another shot, i just need to put in the time and get to know myself and improve myself. I think she is taking some time to trust me again and see if i am getting my life in order.. i think she is pushing me away so that i do feel seperate from her to see how i act on my own.. But i really feel like even just over the course of the past few days she is talking to me more and letting me in more. I just need to play it cool and wait for it to happen. I just hope to god that she really just does see me as a friend, and that she really is just going to be friends with me and this is how its going to be.. I just can't believe she doesn't have feelings anymore so i have to hope.. Anyway.. Play it cool, get to know myself.. relax.

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I truly hope you mean that. And if you start slipping, come back and read what you just wrote here to remind yourself.

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