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  • Oct 13, 2008, 03:43 PM
    inertia

    I think she is acting cold so she doesn't give you the wrong idea. My ex's behavior was based on narcissism, not love. Once I made it clear I wouldn't be her puppet she lost interest. I think your ex is looking out for you by being cold and avoiding you. She knows you are hurt and she doesn't want to make it worse.
  • Feb 12, 2009, 02:25 PM
    Ziggurat2009

    Geez KCtiger, I'm sorry man. I feel like that is going to be me soon, vomiting alone in my dorm room. She sounds like she's selfish man. Just like my ex girlfriend, being so cold and heartless. Flaunting her new boyfriend and avoiding you. That's not sparing you that's just making you feel small and insignificant. Why are women like this. Willing to give up something great, like its taking out the garbage or replacing the old TV with a new one. And then they carry on like nothing happened. I'm sorry I'm no being too constructive, I'm very upset about what happened to me. It is still very fresh in my life. I never even got to say goodbye which hurts the most. I have to sit here and watch her erase me and then treat new guys like she used to treat me. I feel completely betrayed. I should have never trusted her. Anyway, KC that sounds rough. How did you ever make it through all that?
  • Feb 12, 2009, 02:28 PM
    kctiger

    1. Lots of crying
    2. Lots of venting to my friends and my people on this board
    3. More crying
    4. Rebuilt EVERY single aspect of my life
    5. More crying
    6. Was patient
    7. Volunteer. Help others out, as self pity is such a waste of time

    I shed more tears than any girl you have ever seen. Seriously, the guy on "Forgetting Sarah Marshal," that was me, literally. You are still fresh, and you will get through this. Hindsight is always 20/20, but I wish I didn't waste so much time being depressed about my break up, as I feel like I can never get that part of my life back. It takes a LOT of patience, and the kind people on this website are always good helpers.

    I can honestly say, now, that I am SOOOO much happier without her in my life. She was a very special person, and a big part of my life, but life... it goes on man!
  • Feb 12, 2009, 02:54 PM
    SAB123

    Kc, I also did a lot of crying. Man I look back I was crying over nothing... LOL

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