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Originally Posted by MsJulia

If you really love someone, wouldn't you prioritize and make time to have a healthy relationship with them?

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I truly believe that if you love someone, and the person is the most important thing to you that you would make sure he/she knows it, even if it's taking 5 minutes out of the day to say "hey, I've been really busy but I just wanted to say I love you." just something so you know he/she is thinking about you. If you don't hear from your boyfriend or girlfriend all week whether they are starting their own business then that's a sign that something is wrong. You did say that he hasn't been able to fully commit in the 2 years you've been together. So maybe it's best that for now you guys are just friends. You have to look at the big picture. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't have time for you? Go out there and find someone who will, and at the same time, like everyone else is saying, get some hobbies so when your future boyfriend is busy you can be busy too. You'll get through this... and we're all here to help you

Contrary to what the guys above said, I think the fact that he couldn't take two minutes out of his day to either text or call you, even just to say he is busy and will see you later, says a lot. You are not being insecure. These are excuses. He's being plain rude and disrespectful.

I get really angry when guys give the "I'm busy" line. Really? Because so is everyone else in the world. It's not as though you don't already understand that he's busy. It seems as though you're only asking for a call once a week. You're not exactly being "demanding." The bottom line is that when you care about a person, you show it through your actions. Does he? More importantly, do you want to be with someone who is incapable of filling the most basic of your relationship needs?

I think you already know the answers to these questions.

I'm really sorry to hear that it ended between the two of you. Try not to dwell on it too much and don't hold on to the hope that he will come back.

At this stage in your life perhaps you should go out and meet other guys who may be able to provide you with the attention you desire!

Stay strong and keep smiling! Time heals all wounds and you'll soon meet someone who makes you a lot happier!

Lol. :) Thanks, I actually wasn't talking about a specific boyfriend. I just wanted to point out a behavioral trend that I've noticed not only in some of my own relationships, but in friends' as well.

You guys are right. He is incapable of fulfilling the basics in a relationship such as communication, which I feel is extremely important. I wasn't demanding at all. I asked for the most minimal of what a girlfriend could ask for. I mean I feel like talking to him everyday, but he doesn't. That tells me something. He knows very well that I don't like the Busy excuse but I was understanding because of his situation. I need to move on and find a guy who will make me happy everyday rather than happy for a day and miserable for weeks.

I'm going to move on.

Good for you!! Best of luck! :)