Of course he is coming to you. Why wouldn't he? I understand the friend thing, but you are being there for him, and he is not being there for you. He is being SELFISH, and using you in whatever capacity he can. He IS NOT considering your feelings. He talks to YOU about HIS new g/f and asking for your shoulder? Are you kidding me? That is about as disrespectful as you can get! :rolleyes: He has a lot of nerve! And then to tell you that he "loves you"... and "misses you"?. and then goes back home to his girlfriend? Whether it's getting into your pants or not (which you've already said has happened), he doesn't deserve that privilege of being your friend! Friends don't do things like that to friends!! That is NOT a friend! Again, he is USING you for his own very selfish and egomanical reasons, and does NOT care about how YOU feel, or if it hurts you.Quote:
Originally Posted by lovelen
LET him BE scared to lose you as a "friend"!! It is not your responsibility to placate him, stroke his ego and help him with his problems. That should be the role of the girlfriend, and not an ex. He caused his problems all on his own, and you NEED to let him solve them all on HIS own! He WILL hurt you again if you keep on being his "friend with benefits" Even the talks on the phone are just a part of a plan to keep you on the backburner "just in case!" He knows that if things don't work out with him and his "latest" girl, that he can call you crying, and you will come running. Trust me... he KNOWS that, and that is how he is setting it up.
Do you really want to be the one that he comes running back to as SECOND best, and then if you were to get back together, always wondering what he is up to when he doesn't answer YOUR calls? He has lied and cheated before! Previous behaviour is the best predictor of future behaviour hon. He is just not going to wake up next month and have an epiphamy, and say... WOW... I am going to be faithful to my ex, and never lie or cheat again in my life, because she has stuck around as my friend with benefits, while I was cheating on my g/f. There are just so many RED FLAGS that are waving in your face here honey, and you need to take those warning signs and tell him that you can no longer be his "friend", because you aren't willing to disrespect yourself in that way. Let him know that there will be no further contact, not even on a friendship basis, wish him well, and tell him you are moving on to bigger and better things.
I saw your pic, and you are too beautiful to settle for someone that treats you like that. Please don't let this one guy define you. Define yourself! I'm saying this to try and spare you from all of the hurt that I went through. I know guys like this backwards and forwards, trust me I do. I learned the hard way! Believe me, I loved my guy too! Don't let that be YOU!
