Ask Me Help Desk - He doesn't want a relationship?

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Originally Posted by Julia_T

Ok so its been 2 weeks since we had "the talk" during this time we have been sleeping together.. A lot..which is bad I know but it seems like we can't help it. But he is still determined that he doesnt want a relationship.

I'm worried that there is someone else even though he said he would tell me if there was. But if there was wouldnt he be going home with her on the weekends instead of me? I dunno what do you guys think does it sound like there is someone else?

Also I told him that I'm going to go on a date and he got really jelous which is rare for him as he is quite a placid person. But he didnt try and stop me or anything just got pissed off but then changed the subject...

You're nothing more than a fuqtoy... don't you understand that?
If not, then you need serious counseling.

He's using excuses to get away from you. All he did was just to have sex, you wanted more than sex; you wanted a relationship and he doesn't

As for the agreeing on "no sleeping with other people".. what the fuq?
Really... why do you insist that he can't sleep with other females?

It IS NOT GOING TO WORK OUT.
*sigh* people can't face the reality and keep denying the fact..

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Originally Posted by Julia_T

Yeah I dunno why he first started the relationship and suddenly doesnt want one now..we were together for about 6 months not very long but everything was going well overall.. he says this always happens to him in and he has issues with commitment.

But apart from that he has recently got a huge promotion at work and it is very time consuming where he has to be out the country for long periods of time. but he said nothing would change between us because of this. Well I guess I will try and move on its just so hard..

Whoever said life is easy?

Getting a promotion doesn't mean sh*t. There's no reason why he can't handle a relationship.

Most likely, he just wanted to fuq and that's it.

You 2 dated.
You 2 fuqed.
He wants out now.

Have a heart Hjpan... I mean damn. Do you know how terrible that can make person feel hearing that. He had relations with you and now he wants out. Come on now...

You need to cut this guy from your life. He doesn' want what you want so why continue being around him? It doesn' matter if he's seeing someone or not or who he is having sexual relations with, stop having contact with him. You can change what he want but you can change yourself. You either accept it or you don't, you decide.

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Originally Posted by AmExp

Have a heart Hjpan...I mean damn. Do you know how terrible that can make person feel hearing that. He had relations with you and now he wants out. Come on now...

But it's true.

6 months & sleeping together?
Definitely just getting down in bed.

Yes, I am harsh but the words stand still.

I had the same problem except I was a "bait."
Girls who used to like me messed with my head.. told me they'd want to get serious..

You know what?

I get told that they're committed to someone else or they're taken.

That's worse.

Well hjpan I learned sometimes hearing the truth hurts and everything can't be sugarcoated.

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Originally Posted by liz28

Well hjpan I learned sometimes hearing the truth hurts and everything can't be sugarcoated.

Is that good or bad?

Yeah, yeah, yeah... I get it... the truth hurts, but maybe because I have been hearing the truth for the past 2 days I am feed up with it. ( That is just me). I think I am also tired of being the bait as you said hjpan. I don't know what I am doing wrong... whatever it is.. it ain't right.

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Originally Posted by AmExp

Yeah, yeah, yeah....I get it....the truth hurts, but maybe because I have been hearing the truth for the past 2 days I am feed up with it. ( That is just me). I think I am also tired of being the bait as you said hjpan. I don't know what I am doing wrong...whatever it is..it ain't right.

That's why I don't date for now... girls are just.. frustrating for me =/

I try my best but girls don't respond.

I hear you... there is no point in getting hurt. Amen to that. But let's be real. You know good and well when you see your friends with their little boos, it is sad and lonely situation. I hate having Valentine's Day roll around and yet again I have no one to share that Hallmark day with. Hell, even on any regular weekend. No one. This is truly crazy. I will be walking down the street ( I live in a high volume city), in the mall, where ever and I see people together that just look like an odd pair. I start to have those thoughts of... if she can get a man, why can't I?? This is just down right crazy. I have a lot of potential and I am a loyal and caring lover/person. WTH, I just don't get it. The guys I have dated in the past are either Ivy league yuppies or gangster bad boy types and I still cannot find ONE good one. Ugh.

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Originally Posted by AmExp

I hear you...there is no point in getting hurt. Amen to that. But let's be real. You know good and well when you see your friends with their little boos, it is sad and lonely situation. I hate having Valentine's Day roll around and yet again I have no one to share that Hallmark day with. Hell, even on any regular weekend. No one. Blah...I am just getting bitter now.

100% agree

All my guy-friends want me to go to Mexico and get prostitutes so I can "increase my pleasure" but I said "no thanks." Girls I used to like and liked back have been cut out of my life. Friends I used to talk to are either in the military, drug addicts, or party-goers.

I'm just focused on improving my driving skills and possibly going for a automechanic degree.. not sure

*sigh* It's such a joke that people say I'll meet better girls in college but I see mostly hoes/sluts and rarely clean girls =/

Oh wow... I cannot believe this. I am a good clean girl looking for a good guy! Atlanta is a lifestyle that I do enjoy but this is getting out of hand that I cannot find one respectable person who is good looking, sweet, and caring. NOOooo! DO not follow your friends advice! NO MEXICO! LOL! Stay state side.

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Originally Posted by AmExp

Oh wow...i cannot believe this. I am a good clean girl looking for a good guy! Atlanta is a lifestyle that I do enjoy but this is getting out of hand that I cannot find one respectable person who is good looking, sweet, and caring. NOOooo! DO not follow your friends advice! NO MEXICO! LOL! Stay state side.

LOL

What I mean is... virgin >_<

Ohhhh... Ain't nothing wrong with that! Why the hell would you want to waste that on a prostitute would be beyond me...

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Originally Posted by AmExp

Ohhhh...Ain't nothin' wrong with that! Why the hell would you want to waste that on a prostitute would be beyond me...

Yeh... a lot of people ask me why and my reason is that I've only slept with one girl...
I'd prefer girls who're virgins cause I'm so inexperienced =/

WHAT! I would not let that get me down. Anyone who is sexually active started with SOMEONE. There are websites, forums, etc that can explain how women like to be pleasured... so that is also the least of your worries. I need to find someone who wants to love me for me and all that other sappy stuff. If you are "inexperienced" doesn't mean you are bad and only need to be with virgins. Oh, and if she cares enough then she would explain her likes and dislikes. Hence... basic communication. Just a thought...

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Originally Posted by AmExp

WHAT!? I would not let that get me down. Anyone who is sexually active started with SOMEONE. There are websites, forums, etc that can explain how women like to be pleasured...so that is also the least of your worries. I need to find someone who wants to love me for me and all that other sappy stuff. If you are "inexperienced" doesn't mean you are bad and only need to be with virgins. Oh, and if she cares enough then she would explain her likes and dislikes. Hence...basic communication. Just a thought...

Hahaha

I'd prefer inexperienced girl over experienced...

Hey whatever floats your boat... :)

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Originally Posted by AmExp

Hey whatever floats your boat... :)

Yeh~ some people think I'm way too picky... but it's because of my inexperience-ness D:

Eventually you will move beyond that simply because as you get older the fewer virgins there are... but I am hoping that does not mean you begin to prey on young women. Oh how I hate that.