He had the choice of having an adult discussion about your concerns & instead chose to tell you to go away. If he's not going to fight for your relationship, not fight to raise your child together & only want to fight WITH you instead of for what will make your life a better one together, why aren't you paying attention to that? You may love him with all your heart & he may love you all he can in his immature way, but it's not going to be enough to make it worthwhile to have him as a life partner.

He has cost you enough already, when you had to kill your dreams of providing a good safe home for your child together & he bailed until after you let the adoption go through. You aren't likely to have a good safe home or life with him either, I'm afraid.

I'm sorry for all you've had to go through & hope you start having a much better life soon, with someone that can truly appreciate the wonderful person you are & all you have to offer will be reciprocated instead of mistreated the way he has done & keeps doing.

I think you did the right thing. He needs to learn how to deal with his problems alone for once without you taking care of him all the time. Plus it sounds like he really needs to grow up. I think you did the right thing though. Don't worry. :)

<3 kt

You left that out in your other post about his having or sleeping with somebody else and about the supporting him fiancially.

Everyone was basically telling you to leave him alone, you didn't even have to confront him nor did you owe him an explanation. He is your ex and let keep it that way, don't contact him longer nor hang out with him. Also, never support a guy fiancially because your not obligation to do so. The only person you worry about supporting is your child. He's 34 and only a year older than you, never be anyone fool and always take care of you first over a man and love yourself more and stand strong. People today will get over on you and if you allow them too they will continue doing so.

Not only did you do the right thing, you gave yourself a chance to be happy with someone who cares enough to be loyal.

All you have to do is not call, as he said. Don't let him flip the script on you, and make it seem like its all your fault.

Celebrate your freedom, and new oppurtunities to be happy.

Use what he told you, do not call him anymore

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I'm 33yrs old. He is 34. Too old to be playing games

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You got that part right!!

Hello,

It's been a year and a half since I broke up with my ex. 7 months ago, he came back into my life after not seeing or talking to him for a year. We lived together the entire time we were together, 2 YEARS. This man broke my heart in so many ways, so many times, it's crazy...
Point of the matter is, I'M STILL IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN AND CAN'T STOP LOVING HIM...
I just kicked him back out of my life a week ago. I felt so relieved but why after all this time can I not get over him?

Please help with some encouraging words... I have no family to talk with about this

Sometimes when you share a close relationship with someone, it IS hard to get over them. But if he doesn't treat you well then it is good you are no longer together. There are other fish in the sea. I know it hurts when you love and care about someone but you just don't mesh. But just think this is your opportunity to meet someone new- someone who will treat you like the special person that you are.

You are right! The thing about it is that I met this guy about 2 weeks ago, seems really nice, we're getting to know each other and I found out that he has the same birthday as my ex that we are speaking of. He also has a lot of other similarities. Kind of spooked me out at first. Is this a sign that they are a lot alike?

I'm in the same situation right now. My ex and me broke up about five are six months ago. She cheated on me and left for me for the guy she cheated with. I know I should hate her but I don't (weird huh). What you have to do is get busy doing other things get out there and date. Hang with friends go back to school. You need to occupy your thoughts. I can't promise you the love you feel will go away but keeping yourself busy will help... Good Luck:)

Put simply, it will take more than a week, and each time you see him, or talk to him, will set you back further.

You will be in an awful lot of emotional pain, but STRICT NO CONTACT is exactly what you need.

It won't be easy but I think you know you have to stop it.

So be strong.. and don't give up

It will take a while but you know this already

Your on the right track just stick with it :)

Best of luck

Your be surprised at what you can do when you set your mind to it. Instead of using the words can't try can. I can do this instead of I can't do this.

Letting go is hard but in the end it is worth it. Being that the break-up is fresh your most likely thinking of the good times and not the bad. It's weird how the mind works.

When thoughts of him enter your mind, push them away and remember why you broke up in the first place. In the meantime don't watch sad movies or listen to love songs. If you have anything of his in your house store it away or put it out with the trash. Keep yourself busy. Whatever you do don't contact him nor take him back. Keep him in the past and look towards the future. In a few months you will reflect on your relationship with him and understand how you deserved better.

Thanks to all oy you so far who have given me your encouraging words... they truly helped a lot!! Keep them coming please, and GOD BLESS!