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thanks for your response... i know my questions were very simple of getting an idea of what will / can happen...i think its one of the symptoms of this so called "healing process".

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Yes it is natural to want them back after it. Just have to be strong and let go of any control you think you might have over what happened. People change point blank. Its hard pill to swallow but sooner you do the better you will be. Like I said man do not wait around for her, move on like she has moved on. Not saying she is going with anyone but you never know. Find someone who will not question if they want to be with you.

Well I know what you mean and I know this is just the freaking phase for me but at the same time I also feel that even if I build my head strong and guard myself with all these feeling in the end just 1 phone call sh'l not change all my effort of making myself strong.
I don't want to be easily convinced or easily played with---is this me having a BIG ego ?

Naw, its not a big ego to protect yourself, and not fall for bullcrap.

Sorry to tell you and this might come out a little true but she don't want to be with you n haven't for awhile.. u dun just leave someone like that unless she was sick of fyting w u? Did you guys always fyte

Only meet her though if she initiates the next contact with you. You have spoken your peace and she knows you obviously don't want to break up... so the ball is in her court. But to be honest... there is a reason you two split and whatever that reason is... I highly doubt it can be mended with you leaving in three weeks for such a long period. It may be better to just let her go. You two may choose to keep in touch while you are gone... and even try to work things out when you get back. But I wouldn't hold your breath on that happening. Just move on and if its meant to be it will work out. But no more contact!! It's her turn. If she doesn't contact you than you'll know it really is over and she is not the one for you.

Well try to ask her why and try to sort it out. If that doesn't work,move on.

no we didnt fight much at all...just twice in our 2 yrs time... sometimes its really hard to believe that someone who loved you so much may act so harsh n hurt the person u loved once.

even with my past relationship which was for 1 1/2 yr ended with same story she left one fine day, No contact whatsover but then she wanted me back after 1 year well for me it was NO Big Time.

But with the one i just broke up with I have different feeling altogether compare to my past ones...this was more of a mature relationship not fooling around ....so many things are common between us.. almost all the time the way we think is same (not for ending this relationship)...

also my gf current close friend has absolutely influenced her decision to end it. i am saying this with 100% confidence coz her friend herself left her Bf 1 week before my gf broke off with me.oh man these WOOOOOOOOO-MENNNNNNNNNNNNNN

I know i sh'lnt be talking all this but i have to let it out coz when i talk to my friends all they say is they just cannot beleive it and they say it u will find another quickly...oh well i m not buying products with warranty card...so thats why i am here posting my thoughts and gettin some useful views from you guys.

i know i have to move on and forget about getting her back but at the same time i feel that i m losing someone who is really special for me...i am trying to distract away from this topic but then whatever i do i happen to miss her...

i know i just cannot expect her to come back in my life but i hope in a long run i am completely happy to be separated coz i just cannot live like this...its been like 12 hrs of good feeling n another 12 hrs of f***d up feeling.

why are woman so complicated men think that we know woman all good but for me woman dont know themselves let alone men knowing them...

my last broke up (3 yr ago) didnt make me feel so terrible but this one is surely leaving some scars man.

I am in this position becoz I loved her more than anything.

So what was her reason for ending it? She had to have given you an explanation...

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So what was her reason for ending it? She had to have given you an explanation....

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In his first post, he said "she needs space."

But why does she need space... there must be an underlying reason.

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but why does she need space.... there must be an underlying reason.

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Yes and only the girl can truly answer that. You are asking for an unknown unknown :)

If someone I was with told me they needed space after 2 years the first question out of my mouth would be why...

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If someone I was with told me they needed space after 2 years the first question out of my mouth would be why....

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Naturally it is and probably was asked but you want the real reason she wants space and no one but her knows that answer.

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Naturally it is and probably was asked but you want the real reason she wants space and no one but her knows that answer.

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She may not even know why. Usually it's not a logical thing, but is based on feelings.

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She may not even know why. Usually it's not a logical thing, but is based on feelings.

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Exactly :P its an unknown unknown ;)

Hey people... Answer is --- she needs "space" because she needs it... well that's just an excuse from her to have some reason because just before a week we were talking about visiting some place together etc... and suddenly I was BOMBED... trust me guys there was absolutely no problem this sudden "bombing" thing is shocking and painful.

Well the only discussion as in argument we had in our relationship was that she was moving forward with her job etc and I was delayed by 8 months (had to do some course for that) due to some family and financial problem but eventually I would get there.

That's the reason she feels like she surpassed me and I tried to explain her but she won't listen... she would say that I know its not your fault it's the damn situation and you are doing nothing wrong etc etc.. may be she doesn't like the fact that she has better job than me but you know in another 6 month we will be on the same boat... I just don't get that concept.

how do woman lose respect towards thier BF ? if the guy is soft spoken straightforward smart likable by everyone he meets doesn't smoke,not much of a heavy alcohol fan (glass of wine 4 nights in week) nloves /cares his GF to death.d

For whatever reason she has changed her mind, and with so much emotional investment, its understandable to be angry, and frustrated, and confused.

Her reasons really don't matter much, as it would still hurt.

hey guys... today i feel lil different which is good of course i do miss her but in a different way... i feel like talking to her and straight things out not giving any justification or dig a hole of questions like why, how, when, where nothing like that...i have decided what to do with this and i kinda know what is the reason for this break up.

Since i love her so much and to be honest from the moment i met her i wanted her to be happy esp. with me...well i gave my 200% care, love what not just to see a smile on her face but looks like she wanted something more.(never took care of somebody like the way i did to her ,trust me ppl,even she cannot deny it)

So i think instead of going NC i sh'l just talk to her like a man n stay in touch like a friend not 24/7 contact just weekly n month that kind.... Well even if she realizes (which i doubt) and wants to come back i will not accept it unless she deals with her own head like what she wants.

As she said she wants space well she has it all now and i think the reason is the age difference ...she is 21 and i m 26...some ppl may not agree with me but i think even age difference has a big role to play.

Also I am leaving soon and i did advance my ticket as well for my own good. i did nothing wrong to her when i look in the mirror i dont hate myself as i gave everything to her to keep her happy, no guilt whatsoever..

if she left me once she can leave me 2nd time - 3rd time too well i dont want to play this game...i dont want that woman in my life has a remote control to change the channel whenever she feels like...in a relationship i want that there is no remote to control each others life at all.

according to me for her good i hope that she lives single for at least a year and sort her head like what she wants space universe stars what not coz if she falls in love with someone then man in a months time or year u will see a new member here asking for advise.

what do u guys thinkl... i m really started to accept the fact that Its not the END of the world...there is more to life than one woman to take care of.

My Biggest Mistake in this relationship was that I Cared and Loved herr Wayyyyyyyy to Much SINCERELY.

Don't regret loving someone sincerely... that is never a bad thing. You obviously loved her for a reason. We have people that come in and out of our lives and they all serve their purpose in molding us into the people that we are. I wouldn't have any regrets. Just learn from it and make sure the next woman that you fall for has fallen for you just as much. A relationship needs to be equal for it to work out... and maybe you'll know how to detect earlier on if it is feeling one sided.

Hey "Help now" thank you for your views... I know exactly what you mean but I'm not regretting loving her at all because I know this person loved me the same way like I did a whole lot of time as eyes cannot lie... What I meant was that when the sugar content is too much you leave/throw away the drink without even thinking even if a lot of time you like it the same way... u know what I mean.