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Bro, I feel bad for you =/Quote:
Originally Posted by j_daniels55
*sigh*
best choice is to leave her alone and find a new girl =]
For me, there are maybe 3-4 girls who like me but they are really young... 13 (youngest) and 15 (oldest)
still considering... =]
Unfortunately I did see this coming, we were going to be engaged, and I always told her to stay away from a guy that she meet, I new he would pull her away. But I guess you can't pull them away unless they want to be. Its all a part of life. September 5th was the day, I have next to my computer the ring right now, my friends and family all chip in for the ring, a weekend stay at this near by resort and all the works, about 5 grand for everything. All this stuff I can get my money back for, but the life we had I can now never get back. But I know I can live on, by the way she was the one who wanted to get married, that's why it was going to happen so soon. I can't hold her anymore, I can't kiss her, I don't think I could ever look at her again.
Update...
I just got off the phone with her, wanted to just close the book and let her go. So she tells me this guy just happened, I can see other girls but she can't see other guys, truth is I set myself up for that, but I'm pretty sure she left me for this guy, told her the story about the fact I was going to ask her to marry me, she didn't even sound like she cared. She also told me we couldn't get back together because I would always hurt her, wish I knew a head of time that this was going to happen because I would have not have gone to a psycologist to find out what my problem was. Turns out any way like most of you are thinking, she just wasn't the one after all!
Same I just found out that also, keep your head up buddy...Quote:
Originally Posted by j_daniels55
Its been one week since her and the other guy have being seeing each other but they are not a couple yet, but since she first met this other guy lastweek she has still been trying to contact me, everyday calling me, is this because of guilt? I SERIOUSLY DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT THE FUK THIS WOMAN IS DOING, is she messing with my head? SHE DOES NOT KNOW I KNOW ABOUT THE OTHER GUY, is she trying to get the best of both worlds? Or is she just using this other guy? After the break up in the space of ONE WEEK we spoke only a few times because I went NC, during those times we spoke including lastnite and she said she was missing me and still wants to meet up, but I'm not sure sure what I should do? SHOULD I STILL REMAIN NC? It seems to be working but I really don't know what her motives are. It has broken my heart, literally. Remember it has only been one week since this all went down. Things are really intense and I can't believe this is going down after 4 years!!
turbogtir- her intensions are simple, like my ex, she wanted me around to just in case it didn't work out, that means yes they still care about you and you are the "comfort zone". This guy obviously is a rebound so if you want to hold out for about 2 weeks or 2 months then go ahead, but being a fall back can be tough. I think you should face her, tell her the truth that you need to move on and let her go, I don't know if she will come back but if she feels threated by the lose she just might, but after this you should stay in NC. The real problem is the same as mine, if she decides to come back, do you really want her back or do you need her to come back. One thing to remember though my friend, rebound only work for women if you stay in the picture, so run away if you really care about her and do want her back. But as I said be careful, from experince you never jump in head first, have patience and take your time.
Nope, that's where you're wrong. Going to therapy will help you in your next relationship so you won't make the same mistakes that assisted in plaguing this oneQuote:
Originally Posted by j_daniels55
As Rome said, getting help is a good idea for your future, just because it didn't get her back, doesn't mean it didn't help you in the long run.Quote:
wish I knew a head of time that this was going to happen because I would have not have gone to a psycologist to find out what my problem was.
i'm a little confused.
You all had a conversation about calling on Monday... then you didn't call.
That is games. NC follows a break-up, not a pending conversation.
My guess is that she wants to break-up and was slowed by the tinge of jealousy. So, NC may be best for all. But generally that is after an ending... so, was that an ending? You all are young and probably it's time to move on but make sure you do it honestly. So, you can be ready for the best relationship for you.
Turbogtir & j_daniel:
Your ex is trying to put you on rebound. My ex and I put each other on rebound, but she left me for real.. piece of trash~
Anyways, don't fall for it... I fell for it and I hit rock bottom... wasn't good at all
Wow, that is VERY VERY close to what happened in my last relationship... The final outcome for me is that I am WAY better off without my ex... I had to ask myself if all of the stupid fights and one way effort was worth the man I was with, in my case the answer came back no... I don't think you should have to fight and beg and drag on in something that is meant to be
Look man I'm a grl and I know how we can be sometimes and you know what! I really think she still loves u. u know if really want her that bad I have a great ideda. Now this WILL sound corny but if you listen to me I think you got a great shot at winning her back... go with the secret admirer routine
Start sending her flowers and mix CD's on a daily basis and maybe even add some sweet and subtle words with them... keep leaving her hints about who you are but don't b 2 obvious and sign every thing by saying FOREVER YOURS
FOREVER IN LOVE
YOUR SECRET ADMIRER
Meanwhile you need to get a mutual friend to follow up and see if its working
When she finally falls for it show up at her door step with a bouquet of red roses and ask her to get back together and tell her you are the secret admirer... IKNOW HOW CORNY THIS SOUNDS TRUST ME BUT IT HAS TO WORK;)
Sounds like it works~Quote:
Originally Posted by 2L2
I just hope he listens lol <3
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