Ask Me Help Desk - Is it me? I don't understand what he is doing.

OK, maybe I am missing something here.

Why does she need to apologize if a girl thinks she's on a date with HER boyfriend.

And these porn-like photos? Are they for a real book? This sounds weak.

Lovely Girl may be no angel, but he's not either. Should they not find better suited partners?

If you like being treated wrong stay, if not leave. Games and lies are what this guy is about.

So you all think I should just walk way now before he gets back?

We were talking on the phone and he said his phone had one bar and he forgot the phone charger.

He is a computer geek and is usually on his computer everyday, I just realized he left it here under the bed.

So there is not phone, there is no computer to contact with.

As Far breaking up is concerned, yes, I do that to try to get him to understand that I need an answer. He just says he does not believe me anymore. Which I do see why.

I just want an answer out of him. I told him if he would only let me know that this relationship is real and for the long term as I feel then I would never leave him and he could count on me for the rest of his life.\

I just want RESPECT... for my feelings. He tells me he is tenderhearted and he took offense to me saying that I was feeling used.

So now we haven't made love in 2 weeks. I don't know if he will cheat on me in Washington dc or not. The thought makes me want to vomit, but I haven't had anything but a snickers bar in 3 days. I have not slept. I just come to his place after work nand hang out because I feel a weird comfort. I know I sound ridiculous, but I am being honest as I can

I have never experienced anything like this before. And though I am 44, I realize that I never knew what love was before. This is the first time in my life that I would give up everything to be with this man. I wouldn't care if he was penniless. I would be there for him.

Do you all think that he is doing this just to upset me because I have upset him or has he left me and just acting the part without flat out saying it?

As far as I can tell you are in love with drama and the fight to win him. If you were in love with a soulmate you would not live your life in confusion and guilt and sadness. He is a bit of a sad geek and he has you thinking he's a great catch. I am glad you have learned valuable life lessons here about the compromise of relationships BUT I am not buying he's the one-unless there is something great u haven't shared. I'd say lose the zero and find a hero.

Ash123- thanks for checking on this...

I do not want drama. It makes me sad and upset. I just want to be with him. I heard that you can go through very rough times with a soul mate. There have been synchronicities with this guy from the beginning. I never knew what synchronicity even was before.

I think there may be a problem because of our age difference too. I am 10 years older.

OK, good luck.

That is just my opinion. Just a guess, but the problems may not go away.

But no one that comes on here the first time wanting to walk away.

If there was something I could repair I would try, but I just can't look at your issue and see solution right now. You are desperate and scared and we've all been there. See how it goes. I hope it gets better. If not, we're here.

Truthfully he is a perv plan and simple.. to your questions yes he is cheating just forget about him you don't need him and I'm very certain you can do better then him. I know deep down you feel like you actually did something but really you didn't you have every right in a relationship to express to the other what's bothering you.. you did and he gave you his answer.. if he rather take pics of nude teenage girls then let him you wouldn't want to be the girlfriend of the guy who does that?. but I know how it feels to talk to someone everyday and when one day messes up the routine you feel like your whole day is ruined.. I'd say keep yourself busy and try your best to forget the jerk

One note: please read your own words below:

"He says he does not love me anymore."

Please ask yourself what is special about your relationship.

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Feel free to list them here if you want... or, put up a pro/con list.

Good luck and hang in there... I'm just glad we are not sitting here trying to get back an Ivy League, nice guy, who loves you, and you communicate well with, and makes you feel like a real woman, and best friend, and loves your family, and his, and wants to show you off to the world... then, I'd feel more pressure...

I hate to see people run head first into a brick wall, and wonder why there head hurts.

You have effectively made this guy into some type of love thing, and want more, but he doesn't give it to you. If your head was harder you could knock down that brick wall and not have a headache.

You have had enough of a preview of life with this fellow, and your not happy. Disappear from his life, and stop running head first into that brick wall, as he will never change, and has proved that he doesn't want to give you what you want, or need.

So what's the point of staying in this situation?? Oh, that's right your in love, and he is the best thing that has happened to you. To bad he doesn't feel the same, as his actions, speak louder than his words.

talaniman

I guess I have been in denial. This feels like death to me. I feel like a part of me is truly dying. I f this is truly over I will not get over it. I will go on but I can feel a permanent change and I have not been wanting to face it.

I have been in sheer ecstasy since the moment we met. I never thought I could feel feeling like I had. I am in my 40's and that is sad that it took this long to experience love.

I believed with all my heart and soul that this man was my soul mate. I never believed in those things before. I never loved anybody before.

If this is the end, it is enormously painful. I have never felt this kind of pain expect for watching 3 of my family members die young and the sudden death of a man I dated when I was 21.