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Work on doing things that interest you.

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If you keep up your interests,this will give you time to grieve over what you've
Lost :)

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When you are ready, explore the possibility of another relationship.

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When this process is over [for however long it takes] then you will be able to move
On to a new relationship.

It is that simple, but it is easier said than done.

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Originally Posted by mojo2982

It is easier said than done.

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Well,"mojo2982" we've helped you the best way we can. It's now up to YOU to do
Something with it :)

I will try... I am still hurt and in shock

Man, just know you are not alone. You are not the only one that has gone through something like this and YES it is so hard. No one denies the fact that this is all hard. You have to get through the hard times to get back to the good ones.

Respectfully, I wish you the best during this time.

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Originally Posted by Smoked

man, just know you are not alone. You are not the only one that has gone through something like this and YES it is so hard. No one denies the fact that this is all hard. You have to get through the hard times to get back to the good ones.

respectfully, I wish you the best during this time.

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Thank you so much... I really appreciate it.

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I wish you the best during this time.

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So do I... Please take care of yourself :)

Is there anything else I can do to help this process?

Ok... so today, I come into work and I notice that she sent me a text message telling me that she hopes I have a good day. She then went on to tell me that she had a good weekend and the things she did. What is she trying to do??

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What is she trying to do??

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... Get her interest in you going again!

How do you feel about that?

Well this is easier said than done. What should I do?

Well it all depends what you would like to do...

Fall for her TRAP [cos that's all it is]

Or... the strictly no contact rule?

I am sorry, but I am a little naïve with this stuff, but what is her trap?

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What is her trap?

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Her trap is to be nice to you,so that you'll get back with her!

If you allow that to happen,when it should be strictly NO CONTACT,she has
Then got you in the TRAP of GUILT for letting it to be so. :(

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Ok...so today, I come into work and I notice that she sent me a text message telling me that she hopes I have a good day. She then went on to tell me that she had a good weekend and the things she did. What is she trying to do????

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Keeping you on the hook as a safety net.

What I do not get is that she called it off... why would she want to get back now?

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What I do not get is that she called it off...why would she want to get back now?

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And you don't want her back... that's why you're SOOO confused!

DON'T give in by breaking the no contact rule.

No Contact will clear all your confusion, if your busy with what you enjoy.

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What I do not get is that she called it off...why would she want to get back now?

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She doesn't want to get back with you. She wants you in her life as a friend, so you will be available, and she doesn't have to be lonely. She also wants to keep your interests keen, just in case, and she wants to be sure your still thinking of her. That's what makes NC the way to go, as you get to name your own agenda, and path you take, without worrying about what her agenda is, or why she does, what she does.