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My advice, take the situation very slow as they cannot be rushed. She has a lot to think about and any parent will put their children first. Always try to make it known about the kids, ask how they are, how school is, stuff like that. If you don't bring it up the parent may think you are in denial about it and not in it for the long run.

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Had to spread the rep, Rome, but THAT was some insightful expert advice!!

Talaniman thank you. I have never asked for an explanation or a definition of what and who we are, nor asked where we are going. This just sort of came up. I'm being patient, although from these comments it appears I am not. I am just trying to gain a better sense of what her thoughts and feelings maybe, and what if anything I should be doing. Right now I am doing NOTHING. I have established a NC with her unless she contacts me.. ie.. the other night. It was via instant messenger and light and funny, and short. That was it. Yes we have been intimate, WE HAVE NEVER shown affection in front of her kids though. Hence her reasoning behind "i can't just turn it on and off". I think I am being understanding, m I not? I know what her priorities are. And I support them.

Romefalls19 I know she is protecting her kids, she has told me that over and over again. I have never forgotten that the kids are her #1 priority and we must always think about them and how they are handling this. We went to a concert a few weeks back, and as we were walking out the door, her 2 daughters (ages 10 &8) hugged me. She did not say anything, but I KNOW that scared her. I get along wonderfully with all her kids, and I always ask how her kids are and what is going on.

Two young daughters?? Your in for it. Be patient. If she hasn't contacted you in a few days, send the girls a funny card.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Two young daughters???????? Your in for it. Be patient. If she hasn't contacted you in a few days, send the girls a funny card.

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My girlfriend also has 2 daughters... And before we met I always would say "I never want to have girls" because of dating... Well, that has changed. Now I just need to go and by some shotgun ammo and a few more shovels.


(that was a joke, please do NOT take it seriously)

No way man. Come one. I can't do that, it would freak her out if I sent a card to them. She also has a 16 year old son.