Originally Posted by erin7799
It sounds like you like her for all of the right reasons. Just don't pressure her. You say that you don't want her to feel bad. Then don't talk about it anymore. She'll bring it up if and when she is ready. The man that I am with now I met when I was 14. At around 16 all of my friends were all having sex except for me. It was too scary and God only knows I didn't want to get pregnant or a disease. We never did have sex. And at the point when we did begin to have sexual relationships we weren't together. We were w/ other people. We lived far apart but somehow we would always find our way back to eachother. He would come visit me, etc... After 10 years he still had a place in my heart. He was the one person who loved me enough to respect my wishes and boundaries. I actually found him online. We were in our twenties and we actually moved into together and the day that we moved in together we still hadn't had sex. Now that changed that night... lol :) But there is a lot to be said when you really truly LIKE the person that you're with for who they are, not for what they have to offer in the bedroom. I don't know this girl and I am really proud of her for not giving in. Society today expects that everyone should be having sex at 15 and 16 yrs. old. Like it's natural. And when you decide to stay a virgin that makes you abnormal. How the times have changed. I remember when sex used to be a big deal. Now it's taken so lightly that there's almost no meaning behind it anymore. It's just an action. There's not much feeling behind it. It's sad really. But I hope that it works out for the both of you. Like I said... The ONE man who respected me enough to not pressure me to go there is the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with :) Good Luck to you!
