I don't think people are judging you but only judging your actions. Is anyone perfect no, do anyone do wrong, yes.

The only problem is when you do wrong, you try to correct it by doing right. Getting involve with a married man is wrong but I am assuming he did not tell you this, but his wife did. As soon as you found this out you should have been out the door.

Today is a new day and you still can make this wrong a right by leaving him alone, like you stated. When you do, stay strong and stick to your guns.

Ok Erin, I see where you're coming from on many levels and I have a response for pretty much everything you've said. I never tried to take anyone or anything. Affairs are wrong no doubt, but I've never tried to lure him away, keep him out late, etc. I was young and dumb and playing the field. As crazy as it may sound, I've actually tried to counsel him on his problems with his wife offering him unbiased advice and most of the times siding with her when he would tell me things. More than anything I've tried to be his friend. I never thought in a million years I would be the other woman and it's not something I would ever do again. As far as the abortions, I've been on birth control or used condoms at all times. I don't use abortions as birth control. I've chewed out countless nurses and doctors about how in the hell this happened. I've gotten pregnant after the condom broke and I took the morning after pill, the damn morning after. I respect human life, however I am pro choice. I understand that for someone who was told they can't have kids it infuriates you to hear of abortions, but I practice safe sex at all times. I may be dumb to sleep with a married man, but I'm not dumb enough to do it without protection. That's just ridiculous. I'm not shocked to hear anything that you've said, I'm shocked that it's being said like I don't know it already. The sky is blue, it doesn't need to be debated. It just is. Affairs are wrong, the sky is blue, case closed. I'm considering counseling as my emotions change from day to day, but for right now the first step has already been taken and the rest, I believe, will fall into place.

Good. I do hope that no matter what you think of me after all of that, that everything works out for you. With your career, healing and all of it. Some of what I was saying was in general. Not necessarily meant just for you. In general. But Good Luck to you and I really do wish you well!

I ain't "trying to get out of" just rowan1. Thanks- bye

Thanks for the responses, advice, criticisms, etc. It all helped. Good luck to anyone that posts on this site. I got the answers and advice I needed. I've never posted on a site like this before and I don't plan to again. But thanks again. Peace.

I hope you both find the strength to do the right thing for yourselves.

you go mimi. I'm like you and am going to sign off on these too. I really do appreciate x-ray man and talaniman, but I just don't find these places my cup of tea. Nothing personal guys, you've been great... peace and long life to you all. Signing off R-

Do not tell him where u are moving to. Cease contact. Live with a friend if u have to before u move. He sounds quite selfish and wants all the goods without the responsibility. The fascination must have been great but its time to share it with someone worthy now.