Ask Me Help Desk - I think my ex is happier now than she was with me.or is it a put on?

Oh I see. Well good luck marriaget! I wish you the best

Read some other posts here, ull have fun. That's what I did when I was heartbroken last May. I have 350 posts now.

Yeahh (: thanks<3 you too! Seriously, =]

Actually... im 12... about to be 13 hahaha, super young. I knowww.
I'm guessing he's like 16... almost 17. >.< *sigh*
I'm mature for my age, or maybe everybody else my age is just immature and I'm normal. O.o ughh, life is so complex. And I love it?
Anyway yeah, good luck, don't worry much.
As for me... I don't know. -_-

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Originally Posted by marriaget

actually...im 12...about to be 13 hahaha, super young. I knowww.
I'm guessing he's like 16...almost 17. >.< *sigh*
I'm mature for my age, or maybe everybody else my age is just immature and i'm normal. O.o ughh, life is so complex. and i love it?
anyways yeah, good luck, dnt worry much.
As for me.....i don't know. -_-

You're 12? You shouldn't even be thinking about boys yet! Lol jk =)

12 years old with a 17 years old is a no bueno right now.

Follow the hand book DSJ05, I guarantee it'll work!

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Originally Posted by Kevin_s

Gosh, you're making me want to go see the Dark Knight again!

"Do you know how I got these scars?" =)

Haha, I've seen it twice... amazing movie!

And back to the original poster... ive been broken up with my ex for about a month and the same stuff has been going through my mind this whole time but there really is no way of knowing, the way she is not talking makes it seems like she's doing quite fine which at first was kind of upsetting because she wasn't feeling bad like me but I decided not to give her the satisfaction of knowing I was miserable and that's worked very well and I'm doing better, well relative to how I was... although at times I wonder whether she thinks of me but that really doesn't matter at this point... if she ever wants to talk, she'll come to you, nothing you can do, that still hasn't happened for me yet but I'm doing pretty good without her now

Kevinnnnn, I said I'm almost 13!!
Plusssss, he's probably... like 16.. almost 17. Same thing! Lol ^-^ I hope he's like 15...
All I know is he's going to be a Junior in HS... so I kind of figured... 16/17?
well... yeah ^-^ lmao... heyy I'm just like a 16 yr old in a... 14 yr olds body... and I'm 12 ^-^ whatevaaaaaaa. =]

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Originally Posted by pwtnu4

haha, i've seen it twice...amazing movie!

and back to the original poster...ive been broken up with my ex for about a month and the same stuff has been goin through my mind this whole time but there really is no way of knowing, the way she is not talking makes it seems like she's doing quite fine which at first was kinda upsetting b/c she wasn't feeling bad like me but i decided not to give her the satisfaction of knowing i was miserable and that's worked very well and i'm doing better, well relative to how i was...although at times i wonder whether she thinks of me but that really doesnt matter at this point...if she ever wants to talk, she'll come to you, nothing u can do, that still hasn't happened for me yet but im doin pretty good without her now

Let's look at this from an objective standpoint. You (pwtnu4) are in your relationship, (same goes for you DSJ05), Everything is just gravy and then for some reason you break up. There is, and will always be that sort of attraction you had for one another. Just because the other person broke up with you, does not mean that they have a clean slate on their side.

They are probably thinking about you just as much as you are them. My girlfriend and I broke up for like 3 months during a confusing stage in our lives. She tried to talk to me every now and then, and I simply stayed busy, I was still in her families life because my gf's little sister thinks of me as her older brother and is always calling me to hang out, and she confides in me with her boy troubles and whatnot (she's 16 now).

3 months pass, and my girlfriend is sitting at my doorstep, in the pouring rain after I get home from work (11:30 p.m.) and asks if she can talk to me. I have no hard feelings towards her, I still care about her, and I have been very supportive of her in anything she needed, even if it meant a break/breakup/time apart/whatever you want to call it.

I get her a change of clothes, throw her clothes in the dryer and make her a cup of tea to warm up. I'm laying on my bed, she's in my desk chair next to the bed and talking to me.

Come to find out, she had NEVER stopped thinking about me, she had been wanting to talk to me so badly every single day but did not want to come crawling back and then eventually do the same thing again to me, so she wanted to wait to make sure that her actions, and decisions were perfectly clear.

She gets all emotional like women do (no offense ladies ;) ) and is apologizing profusely and all that crap. I tell her that it's not her actions that show who she really is, but that it's how she intends to fix them that shows her true colors. More talking goes on and she asks if we can try things again.

I tell her that I want to be supportive of her and that I don't want to get back in the relationship unless she is 100% sure she wants this. She does and we end up falling asleep together on my bed. The End.

Moral of the story? Even though she may have crushed you, kicked you in the nuts boys, and made you feel like... she did not necessarily do it intentionally. Breaking up with someone you care about is not easy, and we all live with the thoughts and regrets of our actions. If she cares about you dearly, she'll come back. Just make sure you are stern on the fact that you will not play these games anymore.

(Yeah, that's getting added to my super-box-office-smash-hit-guide!) lol

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Originally Posted by Kevin_s

Let's look at this from an objective standpoint. You (pwtnu4) are in your relationship, (same goes for you DSJ05), Everything is just gravy and then for some reason you break up. There is, and will always be that sort of attraction you had for one another. Just because the other person broke up with you, does not mean that they have a clean slate on their side.

They are probably thinking about you just as much as you are them. My girlfriend and I broke up for like 3 months during a confusing stage in our lives. She tried to talk to me every now and then, and I simply stayed busy, I was still in her families life because my gf's little sister thinks of me as her older brother and is always calling me to hang out, and she confides in me with her boy troubles and whatnot (she's 16 now).

3 months pass, and my gf is sitting at my doorstep, in the pouring rain after I get home from work (11:30 p.m.) and asks if she can talk to me. I have no hard feelings towards her, I still care about her, and I have been very supportive of her in anything she needed, even if it meant a break/breakup/time apart/whatever you want to call it.

I get her a change of clothes, throw her clothes in the dryer and make her a cup of tea to warm up. I'm laying on my bed, she's in my desk chair next to the bed and talking to me.

Come to find out, she had NEVER stopped thinking about me, she had been wanting to talk to me so badly every single day but did not want to come crawling back and then eventually do the same thing again to me, so she wanted to wait to make sure that her actions, and decisions were perfectly clear.

She gets all emotional like women do (no offense ladies ;) ) and is apologizing profusely and all that crap. I tell her that it's not her actions that show who she really is, but that it's how she intends to fix them that shows her true colors. More talking goes on and she asks if we can try things again.

I tell her that I want to be supportive of her and that I don't want to get back in the relationship unless she is 100% sure she wants this. She does and we end up falling asleep together on my bed. The End.

Moral of the story? Even though she may have crushed you, kicked you in the nuts boys, and made you feel like ...she did not necessarily do it intentionally. Breaking up with someone you care about is not easy, and we all live with the thoughts and regrets of our actions. If she cares about you dearly, she'll come back. Just make sure you are stern on the fact that you will not play these games anymore.

(Yeah, that's getting added to my super-box-office-smash-hit-guide!) lol

Thanks kevin, that actually puts a lot of things in perspective

Yeah kevin that's for that point of view. That's what I wanted to know if she still thinks about me and stuff. I know you don't know and she is the only one but going through a serious relationship and to just end it like that... thats what gets me. I wish her well and I hope she comes back but in the mean time I'm not going to worry about her and just worry about myself.

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Originally Posted by DSJ05

Okay I'm starting to get over her and I'm letting go. I'm using the no contact rule to help both of us out. I still have her as a friend on myspace and ever since we broke things off she seems happier now than she was with me. Only God and Her know what she really feels like but I'm just wandering if she feels like I feel and just covering it up to see what I would do. I know I'm thinking about it to much but it just gets me worked up about how she could not have feelings for me like I did for her. that's what I don't get. Please help.

I know how you are feeling. Right now I am in the same position, I truly feel that he is happier without me and it hurts me to no end. My advice is to try and ignore her, erase her from your myspace, erase her number, try to put away anything that reminds you of her because that is even worst. Try and do what I am doing, I do so much stuff during the day than when I fall in bed I am so tired I straight to sleep that way I don't think. I am very sorry you are going through this Trust me I know how bad it is. Take care.

Well I'm glad I'm not alone going through all this. Thanks lisi1129. I've already deleted her phone numbers and stuff but I figure that I'll delete her from my myspace either tonight or tomorrow. Thanks for the advice!! I hope you get through it better than I'm doing.

[QUOTE=marriaget]ohhh I understand how you feel.
Well if only god and her know, how would we know?[QUOTE]

lol, very sad, but true! Everyone would love to know what that other person is, especially with the "miracle" of myspace. =/
(even though I'm on myspace all day i hate it with a passion when you see the one you love with a happier status than you)
trust me, i used to go on myspace to just see those status' and eh.. not so good. I suggest deleting them, and just try to not think about it, even though it sounds impossible, for the most part you'd be surprised the day you stop thinking about them.
doesn't have to be today, or tomorrow, but soon, especially with myspace out of the way, things will be okay. =) hope i helped.

kevin... marry me? Jp ^-^

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Originally Posted by marriaget

kevin.....marry me? jp ^-^

Hahaha, well that's a first. May I ask why? Lol Besides, I'm almost old enough to drink lol.

That's why I always tell people to delete their ex off myspace, it will only screw your head up. Of course she is happy without you, she wasn't happy while she was with you so she broke up with you and now she's happy... Did you not see that happening?

DELETE HER!

Then why act happy for 3 months then the last week she just dumps you?

Because it takes time to figure out what to do, so when she made up her mind, you find out she wasn't happy, or not happy enough. Her thing, not yours. Focus on you, and in time you will see things in a totally different light.