Ask Me Help Desk - Breakup killing me

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Originally Posted by Andrew916

oh man did i havean experience with this kind of situation! i met my last girlfriend (Sam) her senior year (my junior). i'm in a band and my rythm guitarist (i'm Lead) is shane. apparently- before i knew any of them- they had gone out (and ended it very badly). none of my friends- who did know- bothered to tell me because they assumed i knew...i always wondered why shane acted so strange when he saw me and sam together- i soon found out and i was taken aback. don't think that this affected our relationship but it was definitely strange.

what part are you more upset by- the fact that he would go out with her or that she would go out with him. honestly iu would be relieved if one of my friends went out with Sam that way i know she won't be dating some big A$$hole. just as long as there is no real PDA between them and infront of me- that would be bed times and cause to be upset.

Hey thanks for your reply. Well which part am I upset about? Well I don't really think I have the right to be upset because that would be quite unreasonable because she's not my girl anymore. And well I was just hoping they would be more sensitive. Because after three long months she can move on easily because she initiated it, but it ain't easy for me here and everyday is a struggle. And when I was getting a little better as the days went by they come and give me this blow which makes me feel emotional and sad once again. Yeah. Well I wish she liked someone else because I don't want to sour this relationship with one of the best friends in my life so far. Yeah he's really cares and he's great, always there for me. That's why it's a rather big dilemma now I guess. I'm so caught in between two things.

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Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

yeah, I suggest you just back off, and concentrate on yourself right now. Whatever you say to your friend or your ex has a very high chance of ruining things with that person. Right now, just ignore the ex, try to get your mind off it, and broaden your horizons by hanging out with friends.

Guess so.. I'm also trying to back off. But I just find it abit contradictory that my best friend calls me everyday to check whether I'm fine and ask me if everything's all right. And I promised him if there was anything wrong can tell me no matter what it is. And yeah he goes out with her and stuff..

Man, bringing back memories of my first heartbreak makes me feel how... blinded I was.

Take this time out of the relationship and assess if she SERIOUSLY was this work of art? What annoys you about her, what don't you like? What is good, what changes have you seen in yourself that you can take with you into your next (probably BETTER) relationship? What things do you know now not to look for in a person?

There's probably a little cutie in one of your classes that you would just LOVE to make out with in a movie or something haha. Now you're free to get your mac-daddy on!

Just don't be a player, they tend to lose out in the end.

Keep your head up, take what you're feeling and turn it into a positive thing. You'll be fine shortly, and read the stories of others as you may find comfort in it, and might make you feel better about your current situation!

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Originally Posted by Kevin_s

Man, bringing back memories of my first heartbreak makes me feel how....blinded I was.

Take this time out of the relationship and assess if she SERIOUSLY was this work of art? What annoys you about her, what don't you like? What is good, what changes have you seen in yourself that you can take with you into your next (probably BETTER) relationship? What things do you know now not to look for in a person?

There's probably a little cutie in one of your classes that you would just LOVE to make out with in a movie or something haha. Now you're free to get your mac-daddy on!

Just don't be a player, they tend to lose out in the end.

Keep your head up, take what you're feeling and turn it into a positive thing. You'll be fine shortly, and read the stories of others as you may find comfort in it, and might make you feel better about your current situation!

I imagine myself driving in a nice luxurious car and laugh at my ex for leaving me...

It can be really hard at first, but the worst thing you can do is talk to her again. I'm sorry that your best friend is making it hard for you. Just let him know how you feel about it, that it would upset you if they went out since you two just broke up. She can do whatever she wants to do, it doesn't change the fact that it just didn't work out. If your best friend decides to go behind your back, sucks for him. You just found out who your real friends are.

Whatever happens just remember, there are like a ba-jillion people in the world, there's always time to find someone new.

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Originally Posted by theo_walcott

Ti was devastated and never felt like this before. the thing is i'm only 16 and this is my first love.

Breakup with your first love is has painful as it gets. I was absolutely crushed when I broke up with my first love. I look back in amusement now because that relationship was so bad for me. But at the time the pain was near unbearable because I didn't know any better. I was a broken man for nearly a year.

The good news is that you will indeed get over it. And as you get older and go through more of these, you learn to deal with it better.