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  • Apr 23, 2006, 02:50 PM
    006girl
    I think the breaking up finally sank in and I've been really bummed
    Really miss him. I keep saying to give myself more time, it's OK to be sad, I need to focus on myself first, etc, etc. I've been keeping busy, but I always think about him. And the more I go out and meet guys, the more I don't find the same connection there. I want to talk to him again... but is it just pointless of me to call him again, when he might be over it?
  • Apr 23, 2006, 03:16 PM
    talaniman
    Hey its barely been a month so take it easy and stop comparing the guys and just relax and have fun. I don't know his motives but you need to take care of your motives so hang in(OR OUT). There are no guarantees in life you just have to go with the flow like the rest of us.:cool: :eek:
  • Apr 23, 2006, 04:42 PM
    006girl
    It has been about 2 and half months since we initially broke up. And please be more understanding, it's easy to just say 'take it easy and just relax and have fun". I was with this guy for over 2 yrs, heading toward marriage. Yeah, I've been trying my best to be level-headed about this, keeping busy, having fun doing other things, hanging with friends, etc. doing all the right things to move on, but it's still not easy.
  • Apr 23, 2006, 04:46 PM
    006girl
    Also, in terms of my last post, I don't expect answers for those questions, but was getting my thoughts out there and thinking out loud.
  • Apr 23, 2006, 06:45 PM
    Jayjay027
    Oh my lord, reading your posts are like reading my own thoughts.

    Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up, he suggested we just have time apart and I agreed with him that we needed it. I realised almost straight away that I wanted him back, and over a month later I still feel the same way... and Im far too scared to tell him how I feel because Im afraid of being rejected.

    Taking it easy, relaxing or whatever, I know isn't an option here. I can't relax or take it easy, he's constantly on my mind and Im hurting so much because Im head over heels in love with someone and we're not together.

    We went for a week without talking at all, not txting, not calling each other... I thought it would make it easier. I had good days and bad days, but we bumped into each other in the local store and got talking, he was soooooo nice to me and complimented me, told me Im gorgeous, that Im one in a million etc...
    And I was right back to square one afterwards.

    You can't properly move on until you have all the answers. You need to know EXACTLY how he feels. Maybe he doesn't know himself yet, so give it a little more time, and then perservere, ask him what he wants. Tell him in order for you to move on you need closure, answers to all the questions in your head and your heart.

    I suggest not talking to him at all for a week. Do what I did. A week isn't a long time. No contact for a week, then lay your cards on the table for him.

    You need to either get back together or get over the relationship, because you can't stay in the limbo you're currently in now.

    I am SO SORRY to hear about your situation... it truly is a heartbreaking thing to be going through. That's why Im urging you to find some kind of closure. You need answers.

    Best of luck.

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