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  • Oct 26, 2008, 07:39 PM
    Shorn9
    What shouldI do.why does it still hurt.
    I still have feelings for a girl that I was going out with. We never like ended the relationship but it kind of became more of a friends relationship after some time because we were both really busy with work. She currently has a boyfriend and it kills me to know that. I saw her today and it breaks my heart. It is complicated because weare of two dufferent races andher family has a problem with that. She kind of knows that I have feelings for her. I know in my heart that their was a very small chance of this working but I went for it and fell in love with her. She can tell that I'm sad and wants us to meet tomorrow so we can talk. Should I just tell her that I still have feelings for her?
  • Oct 26, 2008, 09:20 PM
    chuff

    You should not even meet with her. You need to put space between you, not express feelings for her.
  • Oct 26, 2008, 09:27 PM
    aaj2008

    Really think about what you want. There are millions of women out there who will love you... she is not the only one and there is no one right person for you... I would personally move on and meet some new people rather than dwelling on the situation and bumming yourself out
  • Oct 28, 2008, 08:23 AM
    talaniman

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...-235024-3.html

    If this is the same female, and you haven't left her alone, then you need to.

    Read the stickies in this forum, and be done with this and do the right thing for yourself.

    Start with leaving her alone.
  • Oct 28, 2008, 08:31 AM
    kctiger

    I truly think that saying, "There are a million fish in the sea," does not help your cause, so I will not repeat it. Erase her from your life. Go no contact and start the process of emotional detox. That is step 1. Step 2 is leaning on your friends, family, this website and any other crutch you may need for awhile to release your feelings (i.e. do not bottle them up). Step 3: Find a TON of stuff to do. Get another job, take a class, volunteer, work out, whatever it takes. Exhaust your mind so much that you do not have time to even think about her. Step 4: Enjoy being yourself and making yourself better. Once you start Step 3, you will still be thinking about her a bit. Once you start actually enjoying working on YOU is when you can really feel yourself moving on and enjoying life. Make it happen NOW. You NEVER need to call, see, email or try any other form of contact again. Harsh reality of life.

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