Hey thanks for the advice. We kissed and stuff at his party and it was fine... he didn't try anything. I just don't know if I'm strong enough to say no if the time comes, it would be so hard! But when I was making out with him it made me realise that I didn't really like him in that way. So after a couple more dates, if nothing had changed... I think I might end it and just be friends. I don't want to ruin anything by taking it too far.

That's what dating is for, to see how well you like someone, and if you want to keep getting to know them.

Probably not the best idea to date a guy with raging hormones who's had sex with a million people. He probably has stds. That's a red flag already.

I'm not going to waste another reddie on you, but seriously rethink your information. To immediately say that someone has a STD because of his past is immature. You have no idea the back story to this guy, he has been up front about all of it. He has told her he is sexually expierenced, how do you know that this doesn't mean he just had a lot of sex with the girls he dated? You don't. He was even honest about the way he treated his ex girlfriend.

To the OP, I say you give this guy a chance, take some time and go on a few dates. See how he acts, if he is nice and sweet knowing that there is no sexual "prize" at the end of the date, well then you know he isn't out for it. If he does try something, simply leave him alone.

Yeah std's can't be determined by how many people you have been with.
I know many people that have been with hundreds of people and they do not have std's
While a faithful housewife can get HIV or other std's because her husband cheated on her with ONE girl.

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We went on another date and he was really sweet... he gave me flowers and didn't eve try to kiss me! I don't think he has STDs, he's only been with girls he has dated and I think he has always used protection. But he seems OK that I won't sleep with him. Although he is sweet and nice and I think he respects me I just don't feel anything for him... so I don't know how long it will last.

People dont change overnight. Disregard him for now.

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think he respects me I just don't feel anything for him... so I don't know how long it will last.

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Don't lead him on, and just enjoy dating, he may not be boyfriend material, but can be a friend, if your honest, and upfront with him.

Argh he keeps on wanting to catch up!! How do I nicely blow him off... cause I don't want him to get too attached... and I don't want to be mean... but I have to see him so I can break up with him. Also, any suggestions on how to do that? As gently as possible? Also, I'm on holidays now, should I wait till school starts again or do it in the holidays? If I wait until term it would have been 3 weeks so its like I gave him a good go, but if I do it now its only been like a week and a half..?

Why do you have to see him to break up??
You barely went out enough to call it going together so you don't need to 'break up' with him.
You just tell him that you really think he is a cool guy but you are not comfortable with the idea.
What would waiting to tell him accomplish?

Cause he goes to my school if I did it over the phone it would be awkward when I next saw him, so I want to do it in person. And I just thought if I waited it wouldn't seem like such a pathetic dating thing to my peers, but ill do it sooner rather than later.

So you aren't even seeing him between now and school?
Seems to me like if you aren't really officially going together telling him you are 'breaking up' with him would be weird too
Especially if you do not see him between now and then and who knows if he is even 'seeing' you exclusively.

Well I have twice already this week, but that's what my question was about. How do I avoid seeing him for a few days?

Since you are not really officially a couple you just tell him you don't want to go out.

OK thanks. Its just cause we are at high school news about couples spreads really fast, so all my peers know we are 'going out' even though its not a serious reationship.

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ok thanks. its just cause we are at high school news about couples spreads really fast, so all my peers know we are 'going out' even though its not a serious reationship.

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Just like your name states, you are growing up and will be confronted with peer pressure many times before you learn to ignore it.

The best way to control a rumor is to start it yourself. Now is as good a time to learn as any other. Practice a little alone and use the one you think is best for both of you. Your peers will think what they want no matter what you do.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/15/15_11_2.gifIt's always a good idea to treat others as you'd like to be treated - with respect.

OK thanks... I think I will end it next time I see him.