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Originally Posted by talaniman

Until you can spend time and really see for yourself what kind of person this girl is I would be very cautious and take things really slow!:cool:

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Things are going very slow as we wait on news of the visa. Sent almost 2 weeks a go to the center. We met on 3 occasions already. Plan another to Bali. The fiancée visa lasts 90 days, before 90 days we marry or she returns to Ukraine. She agrees that we both wish to be sure of our happiness and compatibility. So far no issues other than described and we have opened our communication on the issue and resolved. All input much appreciated:) .

In my experience its not the fun times that define a relationship but how you both handle the trials and tribulations of life and whether you work together or fight like cats and dogs, this is what I mean't by going slow because its not just her good side you'll be dealing with but her bad side too. The same will apply to her also!:cool: ;)

I agree as we have navigated difficult situations and mood altering stress. Both on my part and hers. We have resolved with patience and understanding and working together. Life and relationship is not sitting and waiting for a failure to find u but continuiing and asserting towards your goals and happiness. Relationships must be fun and I think it defines at least a large part of any relationship. The difficult times come and test our willingness to help each other to resolve. But this can be fun too. If the entire relationship is on large maze of unhappy obstacles, why bother? Emotion and passion are essential ingredients in a relationship and should be viewed as one of the rewards.

Anyone who makes short thrift of your serious concerns and continues to inflict the stimuli which generates those serious concerns is not worth marrying. That annoying modus operandi will only intensify after marriage.