Ask Me Help Desk - Can't get over her

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You have another option also, and it doesn't include the ex at all. You can start right now, and regroup your life around activities that you enjoy, and make an effort to build friends, that you enjoy and take advantage of this new beginning. Its not closure you need, but some good honest action to build your confidence, and see how well you can adjust, and make the most of your own time, and ability. Get busy, and not down on yourself. Leave the ex alone, and learn to love yourself, and be responsible for your own happiness. Start planning, and then just do it.

Thats how you move on, by not looking back!

I read those posts and I have been doing a lot of thinking over the last couple days, I realized a lot of things. I spoke to some of my friends about her and they told so many heart-breaking things, like she is now practically an alcoholic, a pothead, I heard she cheated on her new b/f. College has changed her for the worse, in terms of personality. The funny thing is now I'm not worried about her, I don't want anything bad to happen to her, but she isn't my problem anymore. As I go up in life, I hear she is going down. It finally feels good to realize how lucky I am to be where I am right now. I am blessed with an opportunity to learn and take it to the next relationship and best of all... become a better person.

Sounds like you've hit the turning point my man.

Keep your head high, know your heading for a better place and, just maybe, you can stop and think of how happy your going to make the next lady that is lucky enough to have you in her life.

Now that's really good to hear. Enjoy, as you learn, and grow.

Thanks to both of you, I will keep you guys posted