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Originally Posted by markb3

Do any girls my age on here have a view with what this girl is doing? Maybe you can read her and the way she has been acting. I am 19 years old and have never been so confused with a girl in my life, I wouldnt be worrying or stressing over this if I didnt love her to death, but seriously what is up?

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Hi mark...
To be honest... no one but your, previous? g/f can know what she is exactly doing.
The thing is... in her past has she ever been betrayed before or had something that has happened that has made her skidish?
From what you have previously written... it is obvious she is jealous. All females do. I live and hr or so from my boyfriend and when I come home and then talk to him on msn and hear that he is going out with a bunch of his friends... I tend to get jealous just because I can't do that myself... or... b/c I'm not there going out with him an having fun.
It seems this girl just took into the extreme. I have had a lot of **** happen in the past... and I can understand her being hesitant... but as you I do not understand why she keeps wearing your clothing, returning your calls, asking where you are and then yelling at you. This girl may just love to be depressed. It could be that everything was going so well and she couldn't believe it... so when one person gave her the excuse to be upset and miserable she took it. Some people can not believe anything good will happen to them and you were it. It may be that simple... or it could be what Cherry and the others have been saying.
It could be on a much deeper level. I just wish for your's and her's... that she's realizes what the 'actual' situation is because it is very definite that you love her. And what her actions suggest is the same.
I hope some of this helps...

Btb... I wear my boyfriends sweaters when I miss him... she could be doing that for the same reason.

I do believe this girl has feelings for you but hasn't reached the maturity in her life to deal with it on an adult level. As a man who loves her you must explain how her actions are pulling you away from her and the drama will not be tolerated, and stick to your guns maybe she will heed what you say maybe not. If she doesn't be prepared for a total break from her and move on with your life. Communication both ways is the key to any relationship so be honest!:cool:

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Originally Posted by talaniman

I do believe this girl has feelings for you but hasn't reached the maturity in her life to deal with it on an adult level. As a man who loves you you must explain how her actions are pulling you away from her and the drama will not be tolerated, and stick to your guns maybe she will heed what you say maybe not. If she doesn't be prepared for a total break from her and move on with your life. Communication both ways is the key to any relationship so be honest!:cool:

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Are you saying that she does still love me and want to be with me or that she is just playing games. I don't think she would be playing games and still doing all the things I described above you know? You think it is worth for me to even try with a girl like this as much as I love her or to just move on, there's a lot of fish in the sea.

My point was if you liked her enough then just be straight and tell her you don't play games but if you've had enough walk away. I wasn't sure if you wanted to be with her or not and the final decision is yours

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Originally Posted by talaniman

My point was if you liked her enough then just be straight and tell her you don't play games but if you've had enough walk away. I wasn't sure if you wanted to be with her or not and the final decision is yours

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The difficult part is that I do want to be with her, I guess my question to anyone on this site is does it seem as if it would even be worth staying with a girl like this. Please give me some imput as I am confused as to what to do. As I said before I love the girl to death but I just don't know anymore what to say or do or if it is even worth it.

Make a decision based on what you want and then do what you want.!

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Make a decision based on what you want and then do what you want.!!!

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I will put it like this it might sound stupid but its true. I know I want to be with the girl right now, but I know that she is not the right girl for me in the long run. Our families are like oil and water and I do love her but I know in the bottom of my heart she is not the girl I would want to settle down with. I just feel for the time being that she is what I want, I am not sure if I actually love her or am just used to her. Does this sound stupid or no?

No its not stupid but
You do need to find out how you really feel about this girl, and do the right thing for both of you.