Originally Posted by jrsg
You are 14. I don't think you even know what a mature, true love kind of relationship is. I understand why you are mad. You probably came to this site here looking for advice on how to ask this guy to be your boyfriend. You wanted support, and things like that. Instead, you got the truth.
Bottom line, you are 14 and are not mature. You think you know everything, you think you are an expert in everything. You know all. You are invincible. Everybody else is wrong. That is the kind of attitude that is scaring me. One day, if you continue meeting guys on the internet, you are going to make a mistake in your judgement. There is the possibility for tragedy here. I don't think you understand the risk you are taking. You are best to meet guys your own age, NOT 22!
You can be mad at me, I don't really care. However, what I do care about is you becoming the victim of an online predator.
If this guy is as you say, that he is NOT a creep, then he won't want to have a romantic relationship with you. If he is a respectable, decent person, he would persue a brother-sister FRIENDSHIP style of relationship and NOTHING MORE. If this guy accepts anything more than friendship, HE IS A CREEP! I know you don't want to hear it, but trust me, ITS TRUE!
So, my advice would be as follows:
- ask the guy what kind of relationship he is looking for with you
-If he says he wants to be friends, and a brother-sister thing, okay
-If he says he wants to be romantic and be your boyfriend, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM!
I am not even sure you should stay around if he says he just wants to be friends. He could be manipulating you, and you don't even know it. So, basically, my overall advice to you would be to break all contact with this guy. Stop meeting guys over the internet. Start meeting guys your own age, or at least within reason.
-Jay
P.S, I know that what I am saying is going to piss you off, but it has to be said. For the other people on this thread... Am I the only one who feels this way about this situation?