Mabey the reason you want her to cheat on you is because you love her too much and you think if you love her anymore you might go crazy feeling like your heart would explode! Maybe your looking for a way out of your relationship because your looking for an easy way out and a new relaionship!!

I think you want to confirm what your insecure mind is telling you!

Tal does it again! You figure she's cheating anyway, so why doesn't she prove your mind right

Yea.. I agree maybe you just want prove.. or maybe since she left, you don't feel that you can handle this long distance relationship and somehow you want to get dissapointed..

Who knows?

I know this feeling... I know exactly what you are talking about... There may be a passion in this... Like having someone have sex with your girlfriend may seem sexy but you don't really want it to happen. You think you don't deserve happiness but you do!! You are still holding grudges and you must forgive her. She loves you tremendously and you must love like you've never been hurt. Give her that chance... She is pure to YOU! Leave here pure and don't wish her body upon others. It's disgusting. She is yours and that is beautiful... Respect her and love her. Please don't say that you want her to cheat on you. You deserve happiness so go and grab it because it is exactly what you are getting. Enjoy and embrace it my friend! Love!

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Originally Posted by muddyfarm

I kinda hold a grudge against her because she had been with about 7 guys before me and it always hurt my feelings. But she has been faithful for the whole time we have been dating.

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No matter what you are doing now, if you blame her for her past (having the audacity to have sex before she met you) you ARE going to ruin the relationship. You need to get over the fact there were boyfriends/lovers before you. Remember: she's with YOU now and she is faithful to you.

Sounds like a commitment issue on your part. I think you really love her, but hope that she cheats to give you a reason to break it off.

Why you would want to inflict this type of pain on yourself is beyond me. If you really love her then deep down you don't want this

Sounds simple enough. You may have a submissive side that is beginning to come out of its shell. This sounds like a cuckold fantasy. Many cuckolds desire to see (or simply know) that their significant other is desiring another, or seeing them. And the more love you feel for this woman, the stronger the urge to be a cuckold. Of course the term cuckold is often misunderstood, since it derives from the word cuckoo, a male bird whose female companion flies off to mate with other male birds, leaving it to take care of the eggs. A human cuckold male is the spouse of a cheating wife, but many men are "willing cuckolds" in that it is not done against their will, but rather they wish it to happen. It's a sexual turn on, a sexual fetish. Couples who communicate this with each other, and who both like the idea of one or both of them being shared with others outside the relationship often become swingers. Look this up on the internet, and you will find a lot of information about it.

Maybe you're so afraid it might happen because of her past and your past experience being cheated on, that you figure 'Well if it's going to happen, might as well get it over with'.

But not everyone is a cheater, though, thank goodness! She may never do it and be glad for that! And if she does well then you can go from there.

Cheating is something I never understood. I know my feelings are if I wanted to be with someone else, I would first get out of the current relationship. I guess some people like to have their cake and eat it too.

Maybe your sadistic, maybe you don't want to be happy, maybe you need conflict and bad stuff to feel meaning in life.

My question is what would you do if she cheated on you. Take her back and make her... What would you do?