Hi Turtlegirl,

Perhaps you can tell her that of course you are there for her, and suggest this site to her again, and when you do say something like "because I am your friend, and I care about you, i may not have all the answers you are looking for, but perhaps this site can help"?

By posing it this way to her, you are showing her how much of a great friend you are (which of course she knows), and you researched and found an area for her were people are going through very similar situations, and we can all try and help.

What do you think?

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Originally Posted by turtlegirl15

I need someone to tell me what to tell her please I know i have been a total but I really need help with this.

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Tell her you will be there at her side, there to help in any way you can. Ask her if there's anything you can offer in her dealings with these boys/people. Be there to help.

Let her open the door to you so she will listen when you talk.

Thank you starlite.

You are welcome, Turtle. Let us know how she does, okay?

Well... now her mom won't let her date the guy she is with (older guy- She is almost a Sophomore and he just graduated) so now she is going to be talking about him more and more. I will try to get her on this website but I don't think it will be very easy.

Sounds like she lacks maturity and common sense, and sadly that isn't something that you can talk her in to having.

Like the others have said, there's nothing that you can say that will make her do anything differently, this decision, this behavior has to stop with her, not you. I wish that we all had the power to prevent our loved ones from making stupid mistakes, if only we did... but alas we do not.

All you can do is be there for her, certainly tell her your opinion, but don't force it on her, otherwise you will be minus a friend. When the fit hits the shan (which it will do eventually) that you can be there for her, but that's all.

Good luck.

Give her the web address to this site, we will help her through this difficult time.

Thank you.. very nice