Haha I like that Ordinary guy. Maybe I'll get that tattooed on my back.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

besides the sex, how is the relationship, are you still doiong alot of things together, is there times she could be cheating, have you considered she has gotten more religious and has been having issues with the non intercourse sexual things. Also perhaps she got some infection, still happens from some non intercourse sexual things and did not want to talk about it, but blames it on the activities. The problem is unless you both can talk about it calmly, the problem will not be fixed.

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Whenever we're not at school, work, or with our family, we're together. We go to the same college and therefore spend a lot of time with each other. We do a lot together like go on movie/dinner dates, visit friends, and attend mass. I don't want to be ignorant and think that there's absolutely no chance that she's been cheating on me, but considering the amount of time we are together it would require a lot of effort for her to do so. Not saying it's not happening, just that if she is, it would involve elaborate planning.

In terms of the religious consideration, I think if that was it she would tell me, especially since we're both equally active in our religion. The same thing with the infection. We have very open lines of communication as far as I know, but a lot of people have been suggesting more communication, so I suppose I should try harder in that field.

Your in a rut and need a vacation. Sometimes we get stuck by being to together, if you know what I mean. I don't think she is cheating at all, but she may be putting the intimate on the backburner, if there is a lot going on in her life. Usually a day or two apart give me, and my wife a better perspective, as far as talking goes, and maybe you two can benefit from a little fun apart from each other.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Your in a rut and need a vacation. Sometimes we get stuck by being to together, if you know what I mean. I don't think she is cheating at all, but she may be putting the intimate on the backburner, if there is a lot going on in her life. Usually a day or two apart give me, and my wife a better perspective, as far as talking goes, and maybe you two can benefit from a little fun apart from each other.

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Very true. That makes a lot of sense. Thanks Talaniman, I think I'll put those words into action.

Same problem with my girlfriend... she says "we're too far apart" but really...

I am actually a woman posting this. I'm in a similar situation where my boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years. I am sexually uninterested in him, but I have no desire to be with anybody else (and no, I'm not cheating either... sounds like there are some angry men commenting on this thread). We too spend a lot of time together and sometimes I feel a bit smothered by him, though I love him very much. He also feels frustrated by our disappearing sex life but I'm not sure how to tell him I feel I need more space. Just wanted to put your mind at ease about the cheating thing or fearing breakup :-)