Your not wrong for taking responsibuility for the reason that you like someone. You should obey your parents though... but for ytour feelings you should make the decision on who you are with and who you are not, I mean your eitghteen for crying out loud.

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Originally Posted by batgirl2009

Well the first reason is because I go to an all girls school but that doesn't mean that I don't have contact with boys my age. I mainly don't bring them up because I don't have problems with teenage boys. Our interactions are not this complicated and don't have too many issues. You know aside from the whole "he just wants to get in my pants but I won't let him" kind of thing. Or him getting upset because I can't go to the mall on the weekend. My last comment that Chery was offended by was by no means supposed to be rude. It was a an honest question and I'm truly sorry if I upset you! I meant no harm.

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I guess, going to an all girl's school, study/homework, family activities and a few trips to the mall don't give you much of a chance to interact with many other 'boys' your age - (the time factor prevents serious communication). But just be aware that the internet and neighborhood (strangers and married men) are not the safest way to learn how to communicate with the opposite sex.

Just be patient with yourself and stay safe. You'll have plenty of time later as long as you keep an eye on your priorities in life, such as education and career first. And, I think that this is what your parents hope too.

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Originally Posted by Kati-Katt

Your not wrong for taking responsibuility for the reason that you like someone. You should obey your parents though....but for ytour feelings you should make the decision on who you are with and who you are not, I mean your eitghteen for crying out loud.

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Well I'm only 16 not quite 17 yet and certainly not 18. And I know I should obey my parents. And I've talked to him about it and he's disappointed but he understands that my parents are just looking out for me. So as much as it hurts, we will continue to be friends. Which allows me time to grow up and gives us both time to think about whether we are really right for each other. It'll be hard but it's only for a little over a year and I hope to learn and mature a lot over that time and then see if our paths cross again

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Originally Posted by Chery

I guess, going to an all girl's school, study/homework, family activities and a few trips to the mall don't give you much of a chance to interact with many other 'boys' your age - (the time factor prevents serious communication). But just be aware that the internet and neighborhood (strangers and married men) are not the safest way to learn how to communicate with the opposite sex.

Just be patient with yourself and stay safe. You'll have plenty of time later as long as you keep an eye on your priorities in life, such as education and career first. And, I think that this is what your parents hope too.

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I totally understand that. And boys really aren't a big deal right now. I only take the time to post the issues that matter and the ones that I could get seriously hurt in (hence the one about my neighbor and this one). The other issues are stupid and petty and I barely waste MY time dealing with so I wouldn't bore you guys with them. I know how to communicate with the opposite sex, I'm just not that interested in it. Going to an All Girls School has taught me that. Which explains why these 2 issues are so big to me. The small interaction I have with the opposite sex is with older men which (in my neighbors case) makes me uncomfortable. But I do have a good number of guy friends who are my own age that I hang out with on a regular basis.

I'm trying to be patient and safe. And really think about what you guys and my parents are saying. I have a lot that I want to do with my life and I think that sometimes I make decisions (even the passive ones- like allowing my neighbor to continue what he does) what could hurt my chances of accomplishing those things. Thank you for helping me see that. I'm sure my parents have said it but it hearing it from someone else too helps!