This makes complete sense and I know it to be true, The Irony is, one of the reasons we had this NC and slow down friend time, was to not be the Rebound (so she said). So essential I became rebound sex-guy in fear of being only a rebound. Woot for sanity.Quote:
Originally Posted by JBeaucaire
I never would have had sex with her had I known she wasn't ready. I guess she thought she was.
Im just still frustrated that is was her idea to be exclusive, her idea to stay the night, and her idea to have sex. I do however also realize that it takes two to tango, I made the choice also. It was my mistake too. Which is way out of my nature, but hell I guess she was my rebound sex girl, I'm just too much of a woman when it comes to relationships. I wish I could be happy with getting a piece. Just doesn't work that way.
Anyway, I plan on trying the friend thing. Thanks K_3 and the Brutal JBeaucaire1 and talaniman. Collectively you all have given me plenty of ways to improve myself, and for that I am thankful. If nothing else I will not make the mistake of having sex so fast again. I have never done that before (so quick) and she was only my second partner. I guess that fact gives you some insight. Thanks for hanging in there sharing your thoughts.
My plans:
Continue working out - my abs are re-emerging! You can now see an outline of glorious ab muscle where fat used to be. Arms and chest are growing too.
Continue to learn more things, and improve my positives as well as my negatives.
I've also started talking to old friends again. Started going out again. Having fun with friends.
Keep my house clean, what chick wants to come over to a dirty house?