Pregnant? Ohhh noooo nooo nooo! That would be a terrible situation... I would be tied to him forever!

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Originally Posted by AmExp

What am I to you? I attract you for whatever reason... I am a jewel, a princess, and a commodity that is so rare I should be treasured.

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Um, see a connection?

What do you mean?

Brunette - Now, I would never be mean to you sweetheart... :-) I apologize if it came off that way as it was not intended. I just wanted to point out that both sexes are capable of doing the most heinius acts possible to each other.

AmExp - Trust me, I wish I could meet a girl that didn't question my motives. That would actually look past her guard and actually see that "hey this guy actually wants a relationship not a random hook up" That's never been me, and never will. I would just feel dirty going girl to girl. I like the comfort of someone being there, knowing you have someone to fall back on. But hey, for now I'm just going to do me and let the pieces fall into place themselves

Rome---right. I guess the hypothesis is true that when you "search for someone" you never find "Mr. or Ms. Right" but when you just live life and as you say "let the pieces fall into place" I think the chances for success is greater. Did you have some one play you?

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Brunette - Now, I would never be mean to you sweetheart...:-) I apologize if it came off that way as it was not intended. I just wanted to point out that both sexes are capable of doing the most heinius acts possible to each other.

AmExp - Trust me, I wish I could meet a girl that didn't question my motives. That would actually look past her guard and actually see that "hey this guy actually wants a relationship not a random hook up" That's never been me, and never will. I would just feel dirty going girl to girl. I like the comfort of someone being there, knowing you have someone to fall back on. But hey, for now I'm just gonna do me and let the pieces fall into place themself

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I know women who are players themselves so the statement is most definitely true.

Yea, I had someone play me... My first actual "relationship" was that. Not too mention the girl I was starting to show interest in is trying to play me. So I am very much into this debate from personal experience

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Originally Posted by AmExp

What do you mean?

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A) If you're truly that rare a jewel and exude that vibe, only a player would have the confidence to approach you, because he doesn't care about the long term outcome.

B) I've known a few self-proclaimed princesses. It's now a red-flag for me. The consistent theme in their relationships was unrealistic expectations which led them to get sucked in completely by any prince charming who swept them off their feet by stroking their ego.



bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE: I'm saying that the application of the label of princess should be reserved for the guy. Any woman that thinks herself a princess is approaching relationships from the wrong perspective and with perhaps unrealistic expectations and therefore open to manipulation.

Dear Broken heart,

You breathe in the congested air of aggravation
Smoggy stagnate suffocation of frustration
You feel betrayed and all you gave was your heart
Don't let that man take that apart
It seems that with every single oppressive breath
Your one step closer to your emotional death
Gasping for air in the race for happiness, love, and wealth
You realize that true happiness lies within yourself
Don't let heart ache leave your inhibitions to die
You emerge and spread your wings and start to fly.
Don't fret my friend your heart should remain in tact.
Because whatever he has done karma will get him back
You lived you learn you must now be strong,
Never stop loving to your potential
Because someone did you wrong.
In order to win this fight
Forgive this man and move on with your life.
No blaming yourself, and don't blame every man
You could be missing the good one who may one day take your hand, hold your heart,
Just be patient and never change who you are! You fell this time, but he didn't win, but as long as you don't let it happen again.

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

Yea, I had someone play me...My first actual "relationship" was that. Not too mention the girl I was starting to show interest in is trying to play me. So I am very much into this debate from personal expierence

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I have not been played before but can only imagine what it feels like.

I have been hurt so that sort of ties along with getting played.
Getting played=Hurt

Romey, I have read a lot of your posts and are so estatic with the kind of person you are: understanding, compromising, sweet and a real gentlemen! Whoever finds you will be so luckey to have you. And you aren't that much older than me. Guys around my age are so immature and don't give two sh*ts about feelings. You are truly one of a kind!

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Originally Posted by Scleros

A) If you're truly that rare a jewel and exude that vibe, only a player would have the confidence to approach you, because he doesn't care about the long term outcome.

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Every woman is a diamond that needs constant shining :mad:

I'm beginning to think that you are the 'player' and have taken advantage of these 'rare jewels'.

Can you tell me where you came up with the above statement please because I very much disagree with you.

I agree with you too Beautiful! EVERY WOMEN DESERVES A GOOD MAN! That comment was very shady that he or she made. I feel as though that person may have an ulterior motive to say something like that.

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Originally Posted by Scleros

B) I've known a few self-proclaimed princesses. It's now a red-flag for me. The consistent theme in their relationships was unrealistic expectations which led them to get sucked in completely by any prince charming who swept them off their feet by stroking their ego.

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Well you must have met some cubic zirconia, the vulnerable ones that tend to loose their shine and lack value, the outside looks good but is really worthless.

.. Because A true Jewel, is more than appealing in appearance it is priceless in value.. and only those grateful of its worth can appreciate that..

So I think you need to change the location as to where you are finding your jewels..

LOL @ Jolie's comment! That is the TRUTH!

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Originally Posted by AmExp

LOL @ Jolie's comment! That is the TRUTH!

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;) lol... I can get creative too...

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Originally Posted by bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

I'm begining to think that you are the 'player'...

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LOL, I'm as far on the other end of the spectrum as possible.

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Can you tell me where you came up with the above statement please because I very much disagree with you.

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Any woman that thinks herself female perfection incarnate, is likely to be very intimidating to any regular guy that might actually care what she thinks, after all nothing is too good for her, she's a princess! He'll have endless opportunities every day to not meet her expectations. The player on the other hand will use her self-absorption to his own advantage feeding her what she wants to hear until he tires and moves on.

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Originally Posted by jolienoire

So I think you need to change the location as to where you are finding your jewels..

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They weren't my jewels, but would lament to me how their crummy boyfriends weren't treating them like the "princess" they were. "Oh, where's my prince!"

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Originally Posted by jolienoire

Well you must have met some cubic zirconia

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Exactly, that's why self-proclaimed princess status is a red flag. Jewels tend to desire pedestals, but how do you make a rock that thinks it's a diamond feel like more than a diamond? Rocks are happy wherever they are, and especially content if treated like a diamond. This rock's looking for another well-rounded rock for which we can both be each other's "diamond".

Now that I've pissed off all the jewels here by daring to threaten their jewelness, I'll see if I can find a player to swing by to affirm that I'm an idiot and that indeed flowers bloom from every woman's footsteps. You'll be completely enthralled by what he tells you since it will be exactly what you're thinking. How could it not be true?

Just tell 'em "I ain't no easy sleazy, no sloppy seconds,and don't want N0 dead end relationship. You can get them a dime a dozen down the road. Start hikin' if I ain't to your likin'!"

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LOL, I'm as far on the other end of the spectrum as possible.



Any woman that thinks herself female perfection incarnate, is likely to be very intimidating to any regular guy that might actually care what she thinks, afterall nothing is too good for her, she's a princess! He'll have endless opportunities every day to not meet her expectations. The player on the other hand will use her self-absorption to his own advantage feeding her what she wants to hear until he tires and moves on.



They weren't my jewels, but would lament to me how their crummy boyfriends weren't treating them like the "princess" they were. "Oh, where's my prince!"



Exactly, that's why self-proclaimed princess status is a red flag. Jewels tend to desire pedestals, but how do you make a rock that thinks it's a diamond feel like more than a diamond? Rocks are happy wherever they are, and especially content if treated like a diamond. This rock's looking for another well-rounded rock for which we can both be each other's "diamond".

Now that I've pissed off all the jewels here by daring to threaten their jewelness, I'll see if I can find a player to swing by to affirm that I'm an idiot and that indeed flowers bloom from every woman's footsteps. You'll be completely enthralled by what he tells you since it will be exactly what you're thinking. How could it not be true?

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You didn't piss me off at all, your just venting because your hurt, and you are allowed to, but hey sometimes we have to pick the wrong ones, to get closer to the right ones, Life sometimes take involving risk, and sure we all will encounter some scum bags whether it be male or female... its apart of living and life to prepare us for the work ahead... I was attracted and married to the wrong guy it wasn't but it had nothing to do with me believing I was the perfect princess it had everything to do with him being the wrong man... Understand that in relationships people are bringing out their representatives during the honey moon phase and we get mislead sometimes, but in the end we may get hurt but as long as we maintained our ROYALTY and LOYALTY by staying the princess we dared to be, and respected our relationship then there is no need to apologize for the male being an A__ hole... that's just my opinion, I will not apologize because someone else is a cheater.. Or feel less of a woman because I picked the wrong partner and because I experienced that I can help others to not go in that direction..
THe END and this is my FAIRY TALE.

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your just venting because your hurt, and you are allowed to

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Makes it easy to dismiss my observations if I'm damaged doesn't it? Unfortunately, I don't seem to be the lone quack - The 'Princess Effect' - The Daily of the University of Washington

I find the whole princess complex fascinating. When/how/by whom does it get instilled in a female? It must be unique to female experience because I don't hear guys complaining that their girlfriend doesn't treat them like the prince they are; or, leaving their girl because "she doesn't treat me like a prince." I don't think I've ever heard a man refer to himself as a prince.

Guess you haven't ran into many prince*s in your life :D

Yes unfortunately many of us girls do fall for the princess fairy tale.
Instead we get the frog that the kisses don't work on!