Originally Posted by kp2171
it sucks when youve invested time and mental energy.
sometimes you pick a dud.
at this point, what does he have to lose? youve been willing to engage in a relationship that benefits him when he desires it.
ok.
ive done some really, really dumb things. if im an expert at anything in my life, its cause ive had my head so far up me arse that i couldnt tell night from day... and eventually figured out what was right and healthy. only took several years and loads of emotional baggage... other than that, it was nothing.
so... time to stop and relax. let yourself be in a failed relationship that needs to pass. dont kick yourself too much, and dont let yourself off completely. and forget about him... until he is kicking your door down, needing you in his life, its all just talk. even then, its still probably just talk.
so time to let it go, take the hard lessons to heart, and delete everything about him.
you need to be alone, without his noise, before you can be in a good, healthy place. its worth the pain and the insecurity.
been there, done that.
i promise, its worth it.
