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Originally Posted by Ash123

read my breakup guide ASAP to save you from trouble...

the FIRST break is RARELY the end if you are calm.

it is a chance to step back and both decide things though and get some perspective.
take this as a chance and don't chase her.

see below!

A

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As I said, the first breakup is rarely IT. It's just a gear change for better or for worse if you remain cool...

Glad you have some peace back!

IFFF she does this again, take a step back and calmly evaluate her issues and your own.

Thanks "Sneezy"

With my schedule don't know how I ever crammed them in... but a lot to chat about on here :-)

Peace

A

If she has not resolved her issues, and has chosen you over career, the same thing that caused her confusion is still there. I think you should be talking and listening, and if your willing to work together, she should get that career. Just me, talk and really listen, she has given up a lot.

I will have to agree with Tal. I'm not exactly sure what the situation is between you and your girlfriend. However, what I do know is that when it comes to a relationship you should both be willing to go to the extreme to help each other achieve one another's dreams. If this is a career that she has been working very hard towards then you should keep pushing her in that direction. It doesn't mean you have to break-up, but it does mean you will have to make some sacrifices.

My ex-girlfriend once asked me how I felt about her going to a graduate school that was thousands of miles away from our homes. I told her that I would do anything in my power to help her get accepted to that university. We broke up for very different reasons, but it definitely wasn't because I didn't support her dreams.

Move on with your life but give it time before going for other gf's cause if she decides she is ready to come back and you are with somebody else...

Thanks guys. She felt like she was missing out on something and wasn't ready to feel so serious for me because she has so much she wants to do, but has realised that we can do that together and both achieve our goals.

Update on this topic...

Since our fight then, we have been happy. She loves her job and life down here. We have been saving a lot and going away on holidays.
I believe the problem was her single friends (not all, a group of 4 which don't like me and M's other friends) and she seems to be much happier with OUR friends. (we have a group of 12 of us, couples etc which all get along great)

So everything is going great here. We recently brought a puppy and we are planning a trip over to greece very soon.

Anyway, Thanks to all the people at Askme who have helped me. You guys know your stuff.

This is great news and congrats, I am happy for you. It good to get updates once in a while here to see if the advice given helped or not and it is good to see happy posts once in a while :)

Now good luck with that puppy, you will need it