PrettynPetite1... I won't have to ask him out for dinner because the dinner that is planned for this week is a post New Year's celebration but also a birthday dinner for me. The dinner invite has already come from him. He was unable to take me for my birthday last week so we are going this week. We have yet to exchange Christmas gift so I could even invite him up to get his gift after we return from dinner. That may be a workable thing.

mischievous... I like the "guys like flowers too".. maybe I should have a single rose for him also.

Great, citylover. I hope everything goes well. Keep us posted.

Definitely go for. It can turn out bad but it can also turn out great. I told a friend of mine how I felt about her and our friendship kind of petered out after that , but I wasn't happy being around her and having these feelings hidden. As soon as I told her I felt much better.


Oh and I'm a guy and I love flowers.

What's with the flowers guys?I'd rather have a lexus,my wife promised me a vet,didn't happen, should I dump her for breach of contract?:eek: :cool:

Breach of contract lol

Id rather have something useful rather than flowers which run out in like a week get like chocolate at least you can eat that lol

Well he has a sweet tooth so chocolate could work

Help! My wife woke up and read this thread, now she's sueing me for breach of contract, seems I promised her the moon and when I dropped my pants she wasn't to thrilled so now I'm on my way to get a box of chocolates.Think she'll share?Do the guys have any flowers left?Have a good day I already messed mine up!;) :cool:

Don't worry ull be fine lol just buy her roses chocolate or quality street chocolate as they are both massive tins so if you had a few she wouldn't notice lol

Parvan
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Definately go for. It can turn out bad but it can also turn out great. I told a friend of mine how I felt about her and our friendship kind of petered out after that , but I wasn't happy being around her and having these feelings hidden. As soon as I told her I felt much better

Wow that is a turn. I really hope and do believe this friendship can survive if this guy decides he is not interested in going to another level. We are so close I would believe it will be fine. I would hate to lose this friendship.

I doubt you would as he will understand.

Also instead of using copy and paste to quote someone if you press quote by there original thread it starts a reply ith a copy of there post next too it.

OK thanks for the posting tip

OK and hope your dinner goes well next week

I agree with what everyone else has posted, just be you!

This person is already a good friend of yours because they like you as a person, people like people so you can't go wrong with been yourself... I think you should just go with it :cool: Hey we only live once on this earth so lets make the most of the time that we have, for happiness, love and fun.:)

All the advice here is very good, and you need to gain that confidence deep within. If he's not dating anyone then he probably is just as comfortable with you as you are with him and is also too shy to reveal his true feelings toward you. So, one of you have to take that step. I'm sure that with a friendship for so long, he will not just plain 'reject' you, and if you can handle feeling comfortable just as friends if that's the only thing he has to offer, then at least you'll know where you stand and it's out in the air. If he agrees and is relieved that it's finally out - then you two will have a wonderful basis to go further since you know each other so well. At any rate, I don't think you have anything to lose and wish you all the best. As far as your original post, statement number three would be what I would say, and go from there.

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_3_18.gifWishing you inner peace and happiness!

At your age , you should know by now that good friends is where a partner starts if they don't make it that far no point in taking it further.

Just call him and let him know, you all have been "dating" even if you both don't realise it.

When you have a friendship as tight as the one you describe, it can survive so many things. I don't think you should wait for your dinner date. I think you need to call him up and ask him to come over as soon as he can because there's something important you need to speak to him about. If he becomes concerned, let him know you're okay, you just really need him to come over at his earliest convenience. Serve him and yourself a drink when he gets there and just let it rip. Be prepared for his response, any response. He may laugh histerically because he was feeling the same thing and you beat him to the punch, he may be shocked (which is why you want a drink and him sitting) or he may in all unlikelyhood, that he would rather keep the friendship intact. Eitherway, I don't believe it would seriously harm your relationship. Worst case scenario, he may hug you and tell you he wished he felt the same and that he loves you for your honesty and make a little joke about it?? I don't know.

You mentioned that you guys flirt a little, how little is little? Are you close in a brother/sister sort of way or as in a really want to be around each other sort of way?

As another poster said, you know him best, do whatever you think will work.

I know you have been given lots and lots of excellent advice. I was in a similar situation. Friends with this girl, she was afraid to take it to the next level because she did not want to ruin the friendship. She thought that if anything happened she would lose our friendship. I reassured her that we would always be best friends. That would not happen. It took time. It was not rushed. Now she is my wife. We have been married for almost two years now. So, with some people it might be a shock response or maybe for the longest time he has been feeling the same way but did not want to come out with it. You never never know until you open yourself up.

Joe

Ok Its been a week and I've been biting my sweater to find out what has happened to citylover!Its not fair to keep us in the dark like this!Or am I being nosey?:cool: