Ask Me Help Desk - How To "Re-Attract" An EX

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Originally Posted by aiyerrc

matteus, whens the last time i told you i loved you?

Have you already :)?

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Originally Posted by aiyerrc

the only thing im worried about is i think she believes in the guy calls the girl type deal. she may want to call me, but she may be thinking the same think i am. "hmm, he hasnt called me, but im the girl, so ill just wait for him to call me" thats what i feel she may be thinking.

Remember the saying "i have my own mind, my own space, my own life, my own ideals, i have myself"? Well, I know you never heard that, but anyway, it's a saying of mine. What I'm trying to say is that, this thing of "she may be thinking" really doesn't matter to you. Just because we can't know what the others are thinking, nor we should try to know. After all, she is the one she is acting distant and like "lost interest", so why do you bother? You have been there for her, she didn't wanted that. I mean you already tried to be there for her, but she didn't accepted you. It should be really a "wow" to you, if she is thinking like you said. Hope you can understand my unorganized thoughts.

Well said and good advice.

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Originally Posted by bustertypsy

Yeah,this is great advice.I only worry that if a man,as the hunter doesn't chase what he is after,will the woman think he is no longer interested,and move on,meaning that a possible relationship has been lost due to male,female stubborness????

If she is interested enough to make it worth his while, no. As the OP said, what may be regarded as "chasing" behavior which men may feel obliged to do is actually seen as being wussy, needy and unmanly and it will only serve to drive the women farther away.

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Originally Posted by aiyerrc

is it a good idea to act a bit distant while you are still in a bf/gf relationship of 2 months, if you feel as though she may be losing interest in you?

Absolutely! Probably the best way to renew her interest, if there's any interest left to be renewed.

Now where was this post 1 year ago, when I had my first break up :P.. Anyway great post, summarize every I learned from this site, and my break up experience..