Somethimes women will imply things but won't say them sometimes they like to be chased it makes us feel wanted and needed imnot saying that its right but I do know its true. She probably deep down wants to be back with you and I will go as far as to say she is probably crying at home when she is alone she mentions your name to friends or people because she is hoping someone will say something like yeah I saw him out with so in so so she can resort to anger and that keeps us feeling strong. I think if you really want her back make a grand gesture. Its clear that you both have faults and they should be wel thought out and discusses try something like sending her flowers and attach a list of things you acknowledge you need to work on and at the bottem ask her to make a list as well you will both have time to review and them maybe meet for coffee to discuss how to fix the issues and have a fresh start remember being honest in the beginning will save you in the end.

That's it.

If you want her as a friend - she's ready.

If not, forget it. She is no longer dating material big guy.

New adventures await.

Maybe your right,

I am trying to move on and I'm trying as much as possile not to contact her but she seems to have stayeed in my life through contacting me and keeping in contact with my friends they aren't even mutual... most of them don't like her

You know its been a little while since I posted on here well I've heard nothing since from my ex and I believe its close to the three week mark for N/C but I've had a real struggle not getting in touch over the xmas period and its making me very upset!

I think the holidays are a terrible time to be going through anything like this, I just don't want to do anything at all, except cry2!

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Originally Posted by Maggie83

You know its been a little while since i posted on here well ive heard nothing since from my ex and i believe its close to the three week mark for N/C but ive had a real struggle not getting in touch over the xmas period and its making me very upset!!

i think the holidays are a terrible time to be going through anything like this, i just dont want to do anything at all, except cry2!!

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Yeah :( It's a very tough time to be going through this. You aren't alone though! It's day 27 of NC for me. Hang in there... I hope it gets easier soon...

It gets easier, I have been doing NC for 5 months. And just in the last week she has been doing little things to get my attention. Don't crash. You have gone this long don't throw it away now. Show her that you are more important then her. Your happiness out wieghs anything your "ex" brings to the table. Trust/ In the past months I have realized things that I would have never realized if it weren't for some of the people on this site. No one can make you happy but YOU. Thinking if she will, what if, if I just do this is a waste of energy and time . You should focus on becoming a better you, and the mind set that you can do better because you have become a better person in your time apart. It gets a lot easier especially when you get to the point when you care for the person but not for the relationship. It gets easier..

She sounds pretty messed up. Although to the dumpee the ex can be a very tempting place to go, its not often in your best interests. You said you wanted another go and nothing happened. I would leave it at that and stop wasting your life. There's too much to be done to be waiting around for someone.

It takes two to make the relationship work; she is looking for a puppy.

Yeah I think your right and I think she will be expecting me to crack because I've done it in the past especially because its been xmas and new year is upon us. I still feel the same way about her as when we were together but I think n/c is the best way I don't know what she's doing so I can't be hurt and also she knows I'm not there to fall back on!

She will test you, right? Be ready and be strong. Day by day, week by week. This will pass.

I believe that I am being tested! About an hour after I posted I received a text message from her, one of those chain ones saying 2008 is a year for loving, laughing, forgiving etc text this to all of your friends and if you receive three back you're a good friend!

Don't know what the hell all that is about!

You puke yet?

Not yet I've not reacted

Don't!

Oh I won't, I don't know why she has done it, it may have been an accident or something and it was just a chain text thing so I decided that if its not about us then I shouldn't react

Well the new year has came and gone and I heard nothing from her which has just frustrated me more about the text the other night I just don't know what she's playing at!

Stupid thing is I still miss her and I do want her back!

You srote: "Stupid thing is i still miss her and i do want her back!!" Yep, that's the way it is now, but it won't always. Continue NC, for yourself, not to get her back. Hour by hour, day by day,. And you will be fine. You've heard that saying, 'Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me'?

Yeah I've heard that saying its very true, can't help how I'm feeling at the moment, I still love her and probs would try and give things another go.

Im just tired of the games like sending me random texts about nothing, after telling me to grow up last time we spoke directly... just really confusing, she should just really leave me alone I've asked her not to bother me unless its important. That's the worst bit I'm not encouraging her contact in the slightest

"All my ex's live in texas....that's why i hang my hat in tennessee."

-George Strait

If you can't move your address, try to at least move your mind.


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I very nearly snapped last night and text her what she was thinking sending me that chain text, I'm just so sick of trying to figure her out all of the time wondering why she's done things, is the text to get my attention? To feel me out and see my reaction? I haven't got any ideas left.

I know, I know! I should be concentrating on me and I am, I'm in a much healthier place than I was a few weeks ago and I'm enjoying my life at the moment she just seems to always be lingering in the background despite my best efforts not to contact her.

Why can't she just leave me alone if she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore?